stormy01 is offline stormy01 Post #1  September 12,2009, 4:56pm
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For whatever reason, I am now 54 and never married. I have had girlfriends and dates over the years, so it's not like I never had woman to date.

I still would like to marry someone that is able to start a family, so that is at least a 10 year age difference. I'm not old in looks or in health, so why am I having so many problems finding someone in person or online? I'm not trying that hard, I am not behaving anxiously and I am reasonably confident, but I am not an extrovert or too assertive. I was told over the years to "be yourself" Well, being yourself has not gotten me anywhere, really. So why is it I cannot seem to find someone who is reasonably active (likes to ski, exercise, bike ride, etc.) and reasonably attractive? It seems all I get are women who just want to sit around and eat! It's the truth! Help!
 
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As an older man who has also never been married, you have to be patient - really, really patient - online especially.

You also need to realize that in the age group you are searching - realistically you can't go much younger - many of these women will have had children already and would not want to give birth again.
 
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Your looking for a woman who is 44 and want to start a family? As a woman who is 56 I can say at 44....having children was a risk..at least that is what the health professionals tell women, the chances for birth defects and other things are higher. Granted we have technology that can detect things earlier, but at 44 I was honestly done with the mother role. However, there are still women who do want children and adoption or others means are available. Think that at 54 you will be 74 when the child is ready to start college. Maybe that is why,,,,, and at 56 I am very active physically , So just hang in there. Beautiful Malmute dog
 
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I agree with PandB. I'm 40 & the last thing on my mind now is having kids. Medical professionals say it is more difficult to get pregnant past 40 and it is riskier. While this obviously won't apply to all women, maybe this is a factor with lots of women.
 
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I've dated women who are 30, but even they weren't interested in having children. I suppose adoption is a possibility.
 
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Agree that you need someone considerably younger than 44 if you want a family. Are 35 year old women looking for 54 year old men? Not generally but some do like older men. Are you likely to bag a fit, very attractive 35 year old? Are you offering something highly unusual?
 
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Dear 54,
Duplicate see below.

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Dear 54,
I think that you ship has sailed without you. You may be very bright but I don't believe your level of reality is suited for who you are today or you've out grown your ideas on love and marriage. What a women wants is love and romance that ends with up with seduction. There is where I think time has passed you by. What I would do is hire a professional match maker to make you over and to find you a quality wife and there is nothing wrong with adopting children. There is a very famous match maker named Dr. Leo Fields in NYC, who guarantees you a match or no charge for his service. Got a better idea? Remember we all specialize in something.right? http://www.selectivesearch-inc.com/index.html
Good Hunting

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Do you know anyone who's actually used a matchmaker? I Googled and didn't find fields.
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Harvey7 is offline Harvey7 Post #10  September 13,2009, 9:18am

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beachgirl5 wrote :
Do you know anyone who's actually used a matchmaker? I Googled and didn't find fields.
WHY? (A Busybody?)
You may need a different search engine like the Love Train. Try the link on the page!

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