PHILLYKATE is offline PHILLYKATE Post #1  September 11,2009, 7:52am
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Does anyone ever just get tired and frustrated with trying to find that right person and sometimes just think about settling for someone who comes along?
 
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BikerBeagle is offline BikerBeagle Post #2  September 11,2009, 8:14am
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Since there isn't a single 'perfect' person on the planet, I'd say we all do that eventually, wouldn't you? ...it's just a matter of how much you are willing to settle for.

I have dealbreakers that I won't settle on ...and, by the same token, I have preferences that I might ...some I will more or less than others. It's all a big crap-shoot. =)
 
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I have thought about settling. Ultimately, you just have to know that you will find the right one in time. I did realize that settling will ultimately end up in dissapointment. We all deserve to find someone with whom we do not have to settle. Hang in there!
 
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Everyone settles. Even me.

You just have to realize what's important and what's not.
 
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Harvey7 is offline Harvey7 Post #5  September 11,2009, 10:56am

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Look at what you want with a defined list of quality's, good looks are a given.

Now define what settling translates to you with a reduced list of quality's that you would settle for in your guy?

Maybe you have to be more aggressive in presenting your qualities and certainly more upbeat with your attitude. Everybody has good and bad days so perk up and try some different sites as well and get out with a girlfriend for drinks.

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As Mr. Right puts it, everyone settles. Otherwise, you will be looking for perfection which doesn't exist. No one out there has every single quality that embodies the perfect mate while at the same time lacks every single flaw that irks you.
 
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I'm always struck by how often people answer these topics without being clear on the terms. To some settling may mean giving up something important. To others it seems to mean not finding the perfect person (and that could be objectively or subjectively). Are you settling when a particular quality doesn't exist at all, or just when it's not up to the level you want it to be? (Note that in both cases it could appear / develop later.)

And not everyone settles - some people actually get MORE than they wanted/expected/imagined. Not usually, but it's not impossible.
 
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Redbird2005 is offline Redbird2005 Post #8  September 11,2009, 2:49pm
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Had a recent catharsis. I am a SETTLER. Realized that if I don't resolve my issues from former 35 year relationship, it will follow into every other one I attempt. My belove friend once said "No matter where you, you take yourself with you." Yes Ma'm, I say!!!!!
 
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I feel a measure of settling is when you look at the quality of something and realize there are better choices out there. For instance, I never buy a sweater, no matter how cute or pretty the color, if it has polyester in it. A good example for a relationship is Kate Hudson and A-Rod. She is beautiful and talented and she is settling for a creepy cheater.
 
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I don't like to use the word "settling" when it comes to choosing a partner. I would rather say you realize that no one is perfect and you re-evaluate what is really important to you when chosing someone. Settling sounds too much like "well, you're not really what I was looking for but since you're the one I could get, what the heck." Just my opinion.
 
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