zen_in_seattle is offline zen_in_seattle Post #1  September 10,2009, 10:20pm
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generally it seems porn is considered much more tasteless than romance novels, but don't they both basically serve the same purpose, just appealing more to either men or women's preferences?
 
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Assuming we are talking about those Danielle Steele's type of romance novels, I'd rather read p0rn than romance novels. At least I can learn some tricks from p0rn.
 
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Personally, I don't read romance novels for the pursuit of the same....fulfillment....that guys I know watch porn for.

Romance novels = plot, with character development.
Porn = No plot...or really bad plot. (I've seen enough porn to form this qualified opinion) The only character development I've ever seen in porn had to do with taking increasingly larger sizes of....well, you can imagine.

I wouldn't dream of putting "I'm a girl who likes porn" in my profile on eharmony, but think nothing of putting that I read romance novels as part of my answer to the book question.

So no, in my opinion, not the same thing at all. I don't find either tasteless, in general, but romance novels are far more socially accepted. My mother handed me my first romance novel. She certainly did NOT hand me my first porn.
 
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I've always assumed most women use romance novels as masturbation aids. Is this not so?

edit: rather, that that is the primary function of the romance novel, not that a majority of women use them as such.
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Seriously??

That's pretty funny, actually.

I don't read them myself (well, unless you're including things like Jane Austen in that category), but women generally read them to escape for awhile and imagine some romance in their lives. They're more like bits of fluff. Like eating a piece of candy. You know; a small indulgance.

Millions of these things are sold each year (more than half of paperbacks sold) -- if women were really using them primarily as you suggest, nobody would even have time to do their grocery shopping.
 
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i dated a girl for awhile that read these things. they were very explicit. i do not know if they all are. but the ones she read were.

it seems to me that the only thing that kept those "novels" from being classified as porn was social acceptance.
 
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I read my first romance novel when I was in the 4th grade. I accidentally signed up for some membership when I picked up the mail, and they sent me romance novels. (I was already reading books like Great Expectations, Grapes of Wrath, etc at that time)

At that time, I didn't know about sex. So the elaborate plot about how two lovers longed for each other never ended in "intercourse" for me. I always thought they just took their clothes off, hugged, kissed, and were happy together and cuddled all night.

What I remember was the stable hand had worked for years at a ranch and always yearned for the beautiful daughter, but how they were never meant to be because of his status. It was almost as sad as Great Expectations!

Then he saved her from a runaway carriage, always treated her right, and he was rugged and hard all over! Then he "ignited a flame in her" after passionate kissing in the stables. I had thought the barn lit on fire. Then the trials after were intense as well!

So because of romance novels, I grew up with a skewed vision of love in life. That you would live your life afar and that when the time came - you would risk your life and lively hood and both people would end up loving each other.

You know how long it took me to try to get rid of this stupid nonsense? I still think like this and I think it sometimes it keeps me from getting dates because sometimes I think it is dumb to just pick up a girl from a bar, club, gym without a "storyline" or "plot"... it just isn't as exciting!
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Lol, you could say that they both scratch a similar itch, but the messages which run under the surface are, well.... decidedly less positive in porn. This certainly isn't to say that the values, morals, etc... which are being put forth in romance novels which are targeted at women are generally positive, but I find it rather difficult to believe that the majority of them carry the abusive, violent, and generally dangerous undertones of a lot of porn.

TBH, tho, if you wanted to call a lot of romance writing out there soft porn, you wouldn't be far off. It's almost all just emotional tittilation. Honestly, if women actually wanted to read a story for the plot and character development, they wouldn't be reading Danielle Steele, so don't throw that justification around, it's trash.

IMHO, neither are good, but I don't think trashy romance novels are anywhere near as bad as porn. A sharp stick in the eye is better than being thrown off a cliff, but if I had the choice, I'd take neither.
 
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Thaliana1981 wrote :
Personally, I don't read romance novels for the pursuit of the same....fulfillment....that guys I know watch porn for.

Romance novels = plot, with character development.
Porn = No plot...or really bad plot. (I've seen enough porn to form this qualified opinion) The only character development I've ever seen in porn had to do with taking increasingly larger sizes of....well, you can imagine.

I wouldn't dream of putting "I'm a girl who likes porn" in my profile on eharmony, but think nothing of putting that I read romance novels as part of my answer to the book question.

So no, in my opinion, not the same thing at all. I don't find either tasteless, in general, but romance novels are far more socially accepted. My mother handed me my first romance novel. She certainly did NOT hand me my first porn.
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neardc wrote :
Seriously??

That's pretty funny, actually.

I don't read them myself (well, unless you're including things like Jane Austen in that category), but women generally read them to escape for awhile and imagine some romance in their lives. They're more like bits of fluff. Like eating a piece of candy. You know; a small indulgance.

Millions of these things are sold each year (more than half of paperbacks sold) -- if women were really using them primarily as you suggest, nobody would even have time to do their grocery shopping.
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