Sounds really complicated.

Well first off, It sounds like he is listening to tapes made by "Badboy lifestyle" and there is one section which he writes:

"Women think and react based on emotions, as long as you don't treat them well, and make them angry - they will be thinking about you. As long as they are thinking about you - even negatively, you have won."

Many on the board will probably roll their eyes (Like I did), but it really does work - Don't ask me what kind of players I hang around, haha. They treat their women this way and the women go through a revolving door in their lives, and them having all the benefits without the relationship work.

Basically, a normal "nice guy" will only give you one emotion - Love. However a "bad boy" will give you multiple emotions - Love, Hate, Anger, Mistrust, Disgust, etc. While there are more reasons not to be bored, is this the type of person you want to be with? These men don't react on emotion, they react on pure logic when it comes to women - they do what is the most beneficially to them, and they do whatever it takes.

Men are able to think logically and compartmentalize very well when it comes to women - if he doesn't want a relationship, but he is able to just get sex whenever he wants, and he is able to not call back whenever he wants, this is very beneficial to him. He could string along multiple girls at once and juggle based on his schedule.

In fact, based on his history of cheating - if he really wanted to win you back, he would show it by letting you know where he is at by calling. But it really doesn't sound like he has changed - nor does it sound like he wants to.

As long as he keeps treating you this way, and you allow him to do it, he is going to keep testing the limits. You've already set the limits, where if he doesn't call and treat you the way you want him to, you wouldn't talk to him again. But if you keep allowing him to come into your life again whenever he chooses, he is going to keep doing it.

I'd like to think people can change, but abusive people and cheaters typically don't. You should really save yourself the trouble, I don't see it going well down the line if he is going to just abuse you or hurt you again.

Whatever you decide, proceed with caution. It is tough to forget about someone in your past, but I find the easiest way is just to sever all ties, wish them luck and try to move on with life. There are plenty of fish in the sea!

(Sorry about the poorly constructed post, I just started typing random paragraphs everywhere!)