You done good! I had big commitment problems in the past and have also done what this guy is doing myself back when I was young and thoughtless. And I knew exactly what i was doing.

Unfortunately, he either thought he had you wrapped and could lead you on til he came accross the one he really wanted OR he is commitmentphobic. Either way, bad for having any kind of good solid relationship. If it is the latter, and you hung out for years and years waiting for him to get over it, you can pretty much be assured he would have dumped you and moved on. Once he no longer feared commitment, he would not want to be with someone that would put up with that!

If you look out for yourself, and don't let yourself be mistreated you will be much more attractive to the opposite sex. That is the members of it you would want. There certainly are people out there that are looking for someone that will put up with being mistreated. They will "screen" you pretty early on to see what you will tolerate, their cheating, drug use, anger issues. If you see it all and stay around you pass! With this guy if you put up with his vaccillating you pass. If you don't he will move onto someone that will.

It is a nightmare to be married to someone that is not committed to you. You would be on your own and exhausted, always watching your back, trying to analyze everything he said.

If it was me I would have no contact whatsoever with you. He will more then likely start contacting you after he thinks you have cooled off. He will apologize blah blah, didnt want to hurt you blah blah, can we get together just watch a movie, blah blah something something.

He'll have a lot more respect for you if you cordially decline and in the long run i can just about guarentee you'll feel better about yourself. Its never fun to feel manipulated.

Your very smart for your age, wish I had been!