saulgoode is offline saulgoode Post #1  September 9,2009, 9:06am
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I'm not sure you'd even call her a flame.

Maybe.

I'll call her a flame, just for argument's sake. I reference her on here sometimes. She's the girl I mentioned today, that I kissed on the head, because she's a shy little bunny. I reference her a lot, because she was one of my favorites.

See, her ex husband cheated on her, and, truth be known, he kinda looks like me. He and I would make good wingmen, about the same height, looks, and so forth.

She and I got divorced about the same time, worked together, and I never talked much with her. I always noticed, though, that she'd look at me. I looked at her. Maybe we saw something, eh.

I waited, bided my time, and finally got to talk with her about a work-related project. I asked her out. She said yes.

We went out. I came home from that date speechless. I'd never felt anything like that, not even with my ex-wife, before we got married. She and I didn't kiss, we hugged, but for her, that hug meant something. She's one of those friends-first girls.

Man, my head's spinning.

Anyway, this was about two years ago. She's a PhD, an engineer, smart, cute, witty, shy, demure, blue-eyed, alluring, down-to-earth, prissy, and perfect for me.

We went out again. And again. No kissing, just the hugging, just the peck on her head. "Kiss me on the lips, and we both know where that will lead," she said.

We held hands, had that casual touch when we ate dinner.

Then, God laughed, and the Saul-luck kicked in, and she got laid-off.

Man, did that change things. She moved to the East Coast to work, and left me here in Dallas. We didn't say much of a good-bye. She liked me, you know how you ~know~ when someone likes you, and I think it might have been easier to just leave and not look back.

That was certainly true for me.

So she vaped. Poof. Gone. Gone forever.

I found her on facebook a little while back, thought about mailing her, but then figured I'd better not. No sense saddling a dead horse, right.

I had said to her, "Richmond doesn't scare me." I meant it, too. I meant that long-distance relationship with her, didn't intimidate me one little bit. In fact, I thought maybe that was the chuckling Almighty slowing me down. I was full-throttle. I needed a brake, and geography would do it.

Turns out I was right. Richmond wasn't a roadblock at all. Her company shut down, and she had to find ~another~ job, hop hop hop, do the engineer 8 second rodeo.

I get to my meeting today, just a few hours ago, and the room's full. I have to wait in the lobby.

I haven't seen this girl in 2 years. I posted on her this morning.

And she's in the lobby. I nearly dropped my laptop, and folks, ladies, gentlemen, I am ~not~ the sort of guy you frazzle like that. I felt like I'd been whacked in the face by a 2x4. By a monkey, I mean, one of those ape-strength whacks. Then whacked again and again for about five minutes, it didn't stop. Every breath was another whack in the skull for me.

"Hey, you!" she said. She wasn't as surprised, because she was in my old haunt, and maybe she'd thought, and maybe she'd hoped, that she'd see me again. "How are you doing?"

I was stunned. Whack. Whack. Whack.

She walked over, hugged me, be-damned with the corporate policy against public displays of affection. I nearly kissed her, and god help me, I wanted to. My eyes burned. They still burn. I lost my mouse, the cordless one, I have no freaking clue where it went, other than I must've dropped it while we were talking. Weird. It must've made a sound, and neither of us heard it.

We talked. I'm not sure what we said, I just know she smelled clean, and she looked as pretty as the last time I saw her, two years ago. She wasn't wearing a ring.

I had no idea how to disengage. Lord knows I didn't want to disengage. I wanted to talk with her for the rest of my life, and some part of me wanted to lean over and whisper, "Marry me," in her ear. I'd've meant it, too.

Gads.

I'm stunned.

Whack. Whack. Whack.

How's a guy to work when he's got that monkey behind him with a 2x4?


- Saul
 
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Thaliana1981 is offline Thaliana1981 Post #2  September 9,2009, 9:37am
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Wonders if she's revealing too much about herself too quickly...

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Wow...

That's beautiful. Kismet, sounds like.

Did you exchange numbers, email addresses, smoke signals?

Can you get in touch with her again?

Is she back in your area for awhile? Permanently?

Don't buy the ring just yet, but maybe fate's given you a second chance?

Good luck! You deserve the best.

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brixjnz is offline brixjnz Post #3  September 9,2009, 11:34am
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Okay, I'm not a sappy kinda broad. But that might be the most romantic thing I've ever read.
 
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Laughingdaily is offline Laughingdaily Post #4  September 9,2009, 12:06pm
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My favorite from an OLD FLAME is pretty good, and runs through my mind often when watching love story flicks.

I dated this young lady for a few months and we both new that her time in was temporary. No problem,live in the moment and do enjoy.

3 years pass, she is back in the states for indefinite time,although temporary. She goes to where I was working and walks through the garage area, spots one of my cars.

She walks up to the secure entry area where the cameras are, I see her and went to see if I was dreaming. We could not chat for reasons not put here, anyway, she went about the rest of that day.

I come out to my car and she is just standing there watching for me. I will leave lots out to conserve paper.
 
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KiskaKitty is offline KiskaKitty Post #5  September 9,2009, 12:15pm
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Great story Saul! Thanks for the smile.

I hope you get a chance to see her again...and again...and again...and again...
 
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mercury12 is offline mercury12 Post #6  September 9,2009, 12:27pm
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I hope you got her number or email cause it sounds like you need to grap hold and not let her get away again.
 
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What a great "reality" Saul!!! Smiling ear to ear while reading that and thinking..."He better grab hold and not let go this time!!!" Best of luck to you!!!

Keep us posted.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #8  September 9,2009, 1:07pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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Hey fingers crossed.


Did you ever see that episode of Seinfeld where they had that theory that the only relationships that work out are the ones with an interesting 'how we met' story?

I think this qualifies.
 
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Icarus_rw is offline Icarus_rw Post #9  September 9,2009, 1:54pm
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brixjnz wrote :
Okay, I'm not a sappy kinda broad. But that might be the most romantic thing I've ever read.
Ditto! Saul your post had me on the edge of my seat. Hell, I was going through all the women in my head that I've ever been attracted to and started trying to compare them to this woman you so eloquently speak of!

Definitely update this thread when you can!!!

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High-5 to Ya, Saul ! However it turns out, you have reached one of the most interesting, delightful and vibrant moments Life can offer anyone. Enjoy!
 
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