I'm "friends" with a woman who I would love to be in a relationship with. I use the term friend loosely because I'm not sure exactly what we are. Its sort of a complicated situation so if you have a minute to read this (especially the ladies) I would love some input. For the purpose of this story we will call her Karen.
I met Karen Halloween last year. I met her through an old highschool fling that I'm still pretty good friends with. We hit it it off within the first night and by the 3rd date we were becoming affectionate with eachother. Nothing more serious then deep kissing. Karen isn't from Canada. She was here scouting out schools and had to go back mid November 2008. I visited her and her family (a pretty big step for me) in January while they were on vacation in the Caribbean. The trip wasn't very good. I would say there was clearly a mutual attraction between us and still some of that chemistry left because she seemed positive about me kissing her the few times I actually got too. Unfortunately her parents weren't having any of it and basically kept her under their thumb the entire trip. So that was that. She went back to her country, we chatted over the Internet for the 8 months she was gone, and always kept it brief but positive and cheerful.
Karen is back now. We went out maybe two weeks after she returned and things were great. We had some drinks, some laughs and stayed up until about 4am. Around 330 I tried to lean in for the kiss and she wasnt having it. I'm far from a pushy guy, so I respected her space and left her alone. I figure the magic is gone, and thats okay. I'm not superman. Here is were I get confused. She still contacts me almost everyday. We get together pretty often. We go out or stay in and it seems she is always looking for excuses to pet my shoulder, touch my face, run her fingers through my hair, etc. Two nights ago she invited me over to spend the night because her parents are gone and she was too "scared" to sleep. I went over. I made another move and got shut down. She constantly tells me how much she loves me too, but I guess there are verying degrees of love.
I doubt she wants affection from me or she would have responded to my attempts. Maybe I'm reading too much into the positive signals and not enough into the negative ones. Or maybe shes just using me because shes out of town and doesn't know anyone yet. School just started afterall.
Any ideas no matter how crazy they seem would be appreciated.

how old are you and karen?

Im 25 and she is 22.

I would have thought that you guys are 15 or 16 years old. Between the two of of you there dose not seem to be any communications, but I would have to say since you are the older male, do you have the ability to define your thoughts and feelings? Do you have any sexual desires with regard to her? Now can the same thing be said about her to you?

Why not have a nice lunch with her and discuss all of this with her as two mature adults and not teenagers. I would take a pad and make a list of ten things that you want to discuss with her and ask her to do the same.
I would also point out that she is a tease and plays games like a teenie bopper with the kissing. Her parents want to control her and may not think that you're good enough for her? Why waste your time and energy if she is just playing games. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose by having a heart to heart talk with her. Good Luck.

Harvey7.