You can't slow down the attachement. By now it's likely too late, to even try to slow it, anyway. But you can slow the rate of the inevitable progress (but to stop it is impossible!). However, some times when going slow, one person thinks "we're going too fast" regardless. And the other will always tend to think, "No, we're going too slow". The rest, I think everyone knows.

I think you should be honest and let him know, I just got through that when they aren't been honest with me, and no explanation, and right now we aren't seen each other anymore and is really painfull. I think you should tell him that you just want to still dating until you get to know each other better, or until both feel is the right time or you feel is right..

There is a lot of good advice here (Bigfincat)...and a lot of bad (Quendy)

Among the most pertinent points here is in how much (or little) you seem to know this guy. With as much as he seems to want to communicate with you, it sounds like you haven't been taking many opportunities to get to know him or express your feelings. The fact that you're using the number of dates as your primary measure of the relationship's progression means that you probably aren't communicating enough to demonstrate any serious interest already, and the fact that you don't feel "safe" riding in a car with him for a day trip shows a serious problem as well.

Of course there are a number of explanations for his behavior, ranging from an innocent inability to sense your awkward displeasure to being emotionally unstable and clingy -- and without further information, any guess by posters here would likely be premature (one cannot draw the line between healthy skepticism and paranoia from within a vacuum of evidence).

I would like to suggest, however, that your answers here might warrant some extra investigation on your own part. If you are trying to make a distinction between emotional and physical intimacy with regards to timelines of appropriateness, then I think you need to find out for yourself what you're comfortable with -- but realize, also, that you cannot expect them to deviate too far from each other. You should not be having physical intimacy with people with whom you don't have emotional intimacy, and you cannot have emotional intimacy if you won't even let them ride in the same car as you.

And without going too far into personal preferences, I will just say that four months is a bit on the long end of waiting for physical intimacy -- the issue should *not be whether or not he will "resent" the wait so much as whether or not you would be doing it as a "favor" to him (physical intimacy should be a mutual expression of passion, not a giftset or reward for "time served"). If you're focused on timing, then you aren't ready. And if you're never ready for the guys you actually like, then maybe there is more to the subject that you should address (trust issues, just a guess).

In sum, I think you should be polite and up front with how you feel about his texting and explain how you are really tentative with establishing relationships with people. And I think you should learn more about yourself and what you want from a relationship.