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Need some help folks on this one. Met a great gal at church, been making eye contact and flirting for almost 9 months or so. Through face book finally made a connection and started conversing. We then started doing things together and got along great, she warned me several times to slow down that she was not ready emotionally available for a exclusive serious relationship. I figured she was still healing form her ex husband or a recent breakup.

To make a long story short we went on awesome get away weekend, ended up kissing for the first time and had incredible sex mulitiple times. Two days later her total mood changes and she informs me that he is emotionally involved with a guy she me on a dating site. They have never met. She told me she needs a break to get her mind straight....Is this the end????? We are both 46
- August 31st, 2009, 06:16 pm
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My guess, and it is a guess, is that it is not the end of you two. It could be but there is only one way to find out.

As for giving her space/time to get her mind straight.... by all means do so and do it graciously. Then assume it's over until you hear from her again. If she returns, give it a try. If she doesn't, be thankful for what you shared and optimistic about people you'll meet in the Future.

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- August 31st, 2009, 07:01 pm
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9 months of flirting, then facebook, then no wait slow down, then a getaway weekend, 1 kiss, lots of sex, then back off?

Sorry bud, but I think she's messing with you. She also sounds like a tease and somewhat manipulative.

Go to a different mass and find a nicer girl.
- August 31st, 2009, 07:14 pm
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She's confused--and you're pretty near the epicenter of that.

You can whirl around while the storm spins on, or do as she asks and give her space.

But I will warn you that until the storm fades, it might not be a good idea to shelter yourself in a vision of you two together. She doesn't even know, herself, what she wants.

Your choice, but the consequences of being exclusive and waiting might not be good for you.

Tough situation...very best of luck to you.
- August 31st, 2009, 08:32 pm
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Sorry, but you'd better run the other way. This person has been playing you for a long time with the hot and cold treatment. Nothing is worse! Don't let it continue or you'll risk missing the real deal when it comes along. Best of luck.
- August 31st, 2009, 09:46 pm
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The term "rebound relationship" comes to mind here. I think you should give her some space and then revisit the relationship somewhere down the road if you're both still interested.
- August 31st, 2009, 11:21 pm
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How much time did your incredible sex multiple times, actually take, that she had time to strike up a romance with someone else? It actually took you nine months to strike up a conversation with a women in church?

Your lady lives in a fantasy world and can not deal with reality. She is looking for her fantasy guy and your not him. Your lady is not a lady in the true sense of the word. She can not refuse sex and that's her weakness. Want to prove it, just call her and tell her that you were thinking about her and ask her, if she would like to have some sex with you? I think you can forget the LTR, just quickies! Don't waste so much time that's the one thing your running out of time.

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- September 1st, 2009, 12:44 am
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I'm having trouble excepting this tale as having much bearing on reality. Still, your problem. If such happened, I'd advise you to "pass."
- September 1st, 2009, 01:42 am
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that would be too much bother for me. her mind definitely isn't straight.
- September 1st, 2009, 01:50 am
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