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charliePL is offline charliePL Post #1  August 28,2009, 10:56am
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I have a general question. There's not many women out there interested in younger men is there? I'm 23, and I find an older (30-36ish) woman attractive, because she knows what she wants in a relationship, confident, usually reserved (i love that!), and is sweet. I wouldn't mind if this woman had a child or not either, kids are too fun! So how many of you agree or would you rather date a man your own age?
 
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So you like hot 30ish ladies???

Well, I'm 31, and generally the youngest I'd consider was 25. I've been seeing guys lately age range 28 up to a 43 year old. I have to say the 28 year old is a bit more fun, but I'm not sure I'd want a long-term relationship.
Maybe I should reconsider, my ex was 10 years older and that didn't work out so well....
 
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Hi charlie,
I'm not trying to cause trouble, ruin it for the older ladies or tell you what you do or don't like...more power to you. I typically date women near my age so there's no threat to me if younger guys want to date women in their 30's.
But I never understood this new phenomenon for younger guys (especially in their 20's) to want to date older women.
As a guy in my 40s I remember clearly that in my 20's my only goal was to get laid. I had no interest in a relationship or the personality of a woman. I especially didn't want anything to do with kids! And ALL of my friends were like this with the exception of 1 guy-who ironically is STILL looking for his first wife and to start a family. But I digress.
Is what you and your other friends REALLY desire a relationship with an older woman? I mean, a long term, serious and committed relationship?
 
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You sir, have raised a valid point here. But nonetheless I have counted this one as well. Not necessarily a long term relationship, and no I'm not out to get laid. I don't care to have children nearly this young...

But what I do want is someone with experience in relationships, not just a long-term one. I've noticed lots of women around my age or younger don't seem to have it, or they just want sex. Sure sex is great, but lately I've been noticing the women who i havent slept with, they and I seem to be better friends. Sex ends relationships more often then not. At least outside of marriage.

And I'm not at all saying I won't date a girl around my age. That'd be great! But, the fact is, a person's got to try something new every now and then....

Furthermore, I'm not interested in someone in their 40's like that TV show Cougar. A tad too old, Maybe 30-35ish? Now that I think of it 35 is pushing it.

In closing, you're right Boccabum. Serious relationships with older women may not seem desirable, even amongst my peers, but it's definitely a thought that's crossed my mind at least once.
 
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charliePL wrote :
I have a general question. There's not many women out there interested in younger men is there? I'm 23, and I find an older (30-36ish) woman attractive, because she knows what she wants in a relationship, confident, usually reserved (i love that!), and is sweet. I wouldn't mind if this woman had a child or not either, kids are too fun! So how many of you agree or would you rather date a man your own age?

O000K, charlie,,,,
so you like older women? ha?
Personally, I do not mind dating younger guys, I have before, and age itself is not a deal breaker for me, of course we have to have common interest, and to be compatible,,,,etc.
My preference is between 5yrs +/- around my age, younger or older,,,,either way,,,,

So if you like older women, you just keep your eyes open, and go for it,

just my 2 cents,

Good Luck to you, Charlie !!!
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Older women dont play games and know what they want. Im 24 and love messing with 30ish year old women. Im not looking for a relationship though.
 
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My rule of thumb is not to date people I could conceivably have given birth to.

It sounds like you aren't sure what you want and perhaps you feel safer with an older woman, unless you're kidding yourself about your motivations and sex is indeed your end game. You say you want a relationship with an older woman, but you're not interested in sex. That's called friendship and it doesn't have any age barriers.

That said, I'm sure there are plenty of woman who'll date you, of any age.
 
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I don't look at age when choosing someone to date. That being said, I usually don't date men much younger than myself, because I find that I don't have a lot in common with them. It's like I've already been there and done that and I'm not interested in history repeating itself. However, if I found a really funny and great guy who happened to be younger, I would go out with him I think. I'm sure there are many like-minded women out there.
 
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Speaking for the really older woman, I would not date a guy that much younger than me. I probably wouldn't go more than 6 yrs. either direction. It is just my preference.
 
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I am dating a man who is 11 years younger than me and we are both considering the other person for a long term relationship, specifically marriage.He is a great guy and probably the kindest and most honest man I have had the pleasure to meet. He is also the first guy I've ever dated (or married) that my family has embraced and thought was wonderful for me. They hated my ex-husband.

I really have no idea why there is such a stigma about the age difference in a couple when it is the woman that is older. Nobody blinks if a man is 15 years older than his wife but everybody gasps in disbelief if the man is 10 years younger.

The two of us are both professionals making similar salaries and just happen to really like each other, enjoy each other's company and have similar goals in life.
 
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