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What do you think about polygamy. Honest polygamy (either form: polygyny (one man having more than one wife), or as polyandry (one woman having more than one husband))

No cheating.

No mistress.

No "thing on the side"

But actual consensual multiple relationships.

Have anyone tried one? what was your experience with it?

Did you like it?

Did you feel jealous?

Did you often feel that your partner had more choice in partners than you did?
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- August 27th, 2009, 11:35 am
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I thought it was illegal in the U.S. to have more than one spouse.
- August 27th, 2009, 12:43 pm
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tweet37 wrote :
I thought it was illegal in the U.S. to have more than one spouse.
It still is . . . so don't even think about it!
- August 27th, 2009, 01:25 pm
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What I wonder about is WHY polygamy looked down upon and monogamy is praised as the way to be.

The next logical question jumps to mind: why is divorce rate so high in United States?
- August 27th, 2009, 02:00 pm
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TrueStory wrote :
What I wonder about is WHY polygamy looked down upon and monogamy is praised as the way to be.

The next logical question jumps to mind: why is divorce rate so high in United States?
Why are you asking? Are you considering taking up a polygamist lifestyle? Do you feel that you need more than one wife to be satisfied? If so, I'm not going to sit in judgment, but for myself (thinking of polyandry), one husband is plenty for me.
- August 27th, 2009, 02:12 pm
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There are two sides to this question, I practice active polygamy myself, typically, as my girlfriend has girlfriends we share. But, I find it hard to find polygamous women.

First question:
- I am still mind boggled by the fact how pretentious monogamy has been negatively affecting people I know.



Because, often I see the "monogamous" partners having a "thing on the side" while lying to each other. So makes me wonder, does it really work?



Second question:
- I was just curious if there was polygamous people on these boards, either guys and girls, and I wanted to hear their experience about it, and of course, learn maybe something new.


does that answer your question?
- August 27th, 2009, 02:21 pm
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Myself, I'm not for any type of anything other than One person with One other person. Be it two males or two females or one of each.

I dont believe that way, if someone was to suggest this to me
as an option I'd have to pass on the whole deal where as myself,
I'd feel like I was being cheated on or lied to, or even to the extreme
of not being 'good enough' for whomever I'm with.

Of course I've been cheated on in the past and I might have a bias opinion.

I never understood why a person would want to do that type of thing.

Could you tell me what it is about polygamy that makes it so attractive to you?
An what is the difference between polygamy an jus havin a threesome?
- August 27th, 2009, 02:37 pm
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TrueStory wrote :
There are two sides to this question, I practice active polygamy myself, typically, as my girlfriend has girlfriends we share. But, I find it hard to find polygamous women.

First question:
- I am still mind boggled by the fact how pretentious monogamy has been negatively affecting people I know.



Because, often I see the "monogamous" partners having a "thing on the side" while lying to each other. So makes me wonder, does it really work?



Second question:
- I was just curious if there was polygamous people on these boards, either guys and girls, and I wanted to hear their experience about it, and of course, learn maybe something new.


does that answer your question?
Somewhat. But a girlfriend isn't a wife. I see the point you are making, but even polygamy requires a marriage commitment.
- August 27th, 2009, 02:38 pm
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TrueStory wrote :

The next logical question jumps to mind: why is divorce rate so high in United States?
Because the husband or wife got too fat?
- August 27th, 2009, 02:39 pm
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tweet37 wrote :
Because the husband or wife got too fat?
I have to admit, that made me giggle.

I don't really think monogamy is the problem. I know lots of couples who have made it work and they are very happy. My parents, for example. All my aunts and uncles. All the married seniors at my church, most of whom have been married for over half a century. There are lots of things that contribute to divorce. For some people, monogamy might be the issue, but I don't think that can be applied in every single case. Not every marriage dissolves because of infidelity.
- August 27th, 2009, 02:52 pm
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