Polygamy and other forms of it


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Emme is offline Emme Post #21  August 29,2009, 5:29pm

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I'm guessing many/most people who are polygamous or polyandrous in this society simply become swingers and perhaps become more involved with singles or other couples they meet at swingers events.
 
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...what is it about the threads on here lately that all remind me of a story....?

So at the risk of sounding like somebody's old granny again, this thread reminds me of a story. I was 20, and my family was traveling in Sweden. We got to this lovely hotel in Stockholm to find that a Saudi sheik, his four wives, and his fifteen children were checking in as well. I believe they'd booked one large wing of the top floor. I'm eyeing them with all the prejudices born of my recent encounters with a minor in Women's Studies....thinking about this repressive regime and hating this dictator, this autocrat, this power-hungry man who was running the lives of these women and children....

....but I was interrupted in the midst of this reverie by two of the children running up to one of the younger wives, chattering excitedly in Arabic, and pointing in the direction of lobby's gift shop. The young woman lookked questioningly at him and the sheik shook his head, waved his hand, and made a few evidently negative comments. That would be the end of it, I thought. But the childrens' mother looked from him to the oldest wife. She crisply addressed a couple of questions to the children, evidently received the answers she was looking for, and rose slowly to her feet, elegant in her black dress and headscarves, to go to the gift shop. The sheik continued to protest, a little more loudly over the voices of the children. But without so much as looking at him, the other 18 women and children rose at her signal and followed the oldest wife into the gift shop. In a few moments, they were all happily snapping up souvenirs. The sheik, still protesting (though a bit more feebly) slowly, heavily walked in, pulling an AMEX Gold Card out of his wallet....

Over the next 3 days, I saw the almost identical scene repeated at some of Stockholm's most favorite attractions....I saw them in a gift shop near the Wasa museum....at another near the royal palace....I saw him buy 19 ice creams in a city park....
....by the time I left Stockholm, my feminist ire had simmered down and I felt simply sorry for the poor sheik. Power?! He appeared to have none!
His oldest wife, on the other hand.....
Grace, that is just...hilarious.

OP, as Sabete said, what you are talking about is polyamory, not polygamy. Whole different ballgame. I personally don't care how many people sleep together as long as they are consenting adults. But I've known a few people who practiced polyamory and most of them were not honest, with themselves or with others, about why they do it, about how happy it makes them.

That said, in my experience, most men would say they can't keep one woman happy. Why would they be any more successful with five or six? If you are, more power to you (and the ladies).

But, now I'm kind of digging on the nekkid, duct-taped to a tree mind movie playing in my head.

And no, polygamy or polyamory wouldn't interest me. However, I might consider a sheik.
 
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Polygamy....another word for a poorly organized orgy.
 
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That said, in my experience, most men would say they can't keep one woman happy. Why would they be any more successful with five or six? If you are, more power to you (and the ladies).

But, now I'm kind of digging on the nekkid, duct-taped to a tree mind movie playing in my head.
Don't forget the news story about the wife and girlfriends who found out about each other, got together and superglued the guy's "thang" to his stomach.

I really can't see why any man would want a bunch of women living together, talking about intimate details and conspiring with each other.

 
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If there is legislation for Gay Marriage, Polygamy could be next on the docket.
 
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chawks64 wrote :
Don't forget the news story about the wife and girlfriends who found out about each other, got together and superglued the guy's "thang" to his stomach.

I really can't see why any man would want a bunch of women living together, talking about intimate details and conspiring with each other.
Masochism...or miscalculated machismo?
 
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Love that story Grace Illustrates beautifully a point my religious instructor was trying to make. Yes, you may have more than one wife but remember...if you buy an SUV for one you have to buy the same exact one for the other three (the limit is four wives). I'm not going to go into a long history lesson and context on why this came about (clearly in a time period where there was no welfare system, a time of war where there was many widows/orphans and where the Muslim community was not very large... etc.)
Most men find it hard enough to please one woman let alone three others..equally. Of course then there is the example of our Prophet (SAW) who's first wife was an older woman than himself and they had an exclusive relationship until her death. It was only after when He was instructed to take on other wives and they were not chosen by their wealth, status or beauty. In fact one of them was "abnormally" tall for the women of her time and walked with a slight limp and the last and youngest even stated that she was not jealous of anyone except his long time deceased first wife. He still thought about her and took good care of all her relatives until his eventual death.
I think things are better understood when they are taken in context.
I really appreciated your story.
 
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BuzWeaver wrote :
If there is legislation for Gay Marriage, Polygamy could be next on the docket.
It is interesting that both are outlawed due to religious reasons, which, in itself, is unconstitutional...
 
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Jacquiem is offline Jacquiem Post #29  August 30,2009, 12:36pm
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To the OP... what hole did you crawl out of? Either you have a insecurity problem within yourself or a s e x addiction.
There's no need to be disrespectful.

Disagree all you want, but disrespecting people who you disagree with becasue you disagree with them is just not nice.
 
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Jacquiem wrote :
There's no need to be disrespectful.

Disagree all you want, but disrespecting people who you disagree with becasue you disagree with them is just not nice.
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