Can you "use up" your chances for love?


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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #1  August 26,2009, 9:11am

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Do you think you can "use up" all of the times you're going to be in love?

I mean if you've been in love before already, was that it? Your turn over? Or doesn't it work that way? Because it seems to be working that way.

I've been thoroughly in love, and loved back, twice in my life which is much luckier than some people get so should I be grateful and accept that it won't happen again because 3 times is greedy? Or can I be optimistic about 3rd time lucky?

What do you think?
 
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I think that's BS. I believe we CHOOSE the state of mind we're in and love is one of those choices. We don't have a quota, limit, or any other restriction.
Luck has nothing to do with it. It's within ourselves.
The same idea holds true for Karma, a soul mate, fate, and other self-inflicted restrictions.
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Harvey7 is offline Harvey7 Post #3  August 26,2009, 10:09am

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trixie1868 wrote :
Do you think you can "use up" all of the times you're going to be in love?

I mean if you've been in love before already, was that it? Your turn over? Or doesn't it work that way? Because it seems to be working that way.

I've been thoroughly in love, and loved back, twice in my life which is much luckier than some people get so should I be grateful and accept that it won't happen again because 3 times is greedy? Or can I be optimistic about 3rd time lucky?

What do you think?
Yes, Trixie you can be optimistic about being lucky in love for a third time, as a matter of fact it's called HOPE'IUM !

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kevin76 is offline kevin76 Post #4  August 26,2009, 10:27am
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trixie1868 wrote :
Do you think you can "use up" all of the times you're going to be in love?

I mean if you've been in love before already, was that it? Your turn over? Or doesn't it work that way? Because it seems to be working that way.

I've been thoroughly in love, and loved back, twice in my life which is much luckier than some people get so should I be grateful and accept that it won't happen again because 3 times is greedy? Or can I be optimistic about 3rd time lucky?

What do you think?
On the contrary, being successful in love is similar (in one way at least) to being successful in anything else - if you have what it takes, and you've proven it twice, I would say it's that much MORE likely that you will succeed again.
There is a little bit of luck involved, but not nearly as much as some people would like to think.

Love doesn't get used up when shared, it gets better!
 
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j0hn8andy is offline j0hn8andy Post #5  August 26,2009, 10:42am
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trixie1868 wrote :
Do you think you can "use up" all of the times you're going to be in love?

I mean if you've been in love before already, was that it? Your turn over? Or doesn't it work that way? Because it seems to be working that way.

I've been thoroughly in love, and loved back, twice in my life which is much luckier than some people get so should I be grateful and accept that it won't happen again because 3 times is greedy? Or can I be optimistic about 3rd time lucky?
I don't think there's any limit, other than the limits we impose on ourselves. Who would be controlling that, anyway?

Some people think that if you've loved before, you are more likely to do so again, because you know the value of what you had.

The one thing I would add is not to be so sure of what's lacking in other people's lives. A superior attitude is never attractive.

As for a 3rd time...Try, and try again! The third time's the charm...
 
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Mokkesofie is offline Mokkesofie Post #6  August 26,2009, 10:48am
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I have been in-love and loved back twice in my life. I believe it's possible a third time and hope it will happen some day.
 
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legend29 is offline legend29 Post #7  August 26,2009, 10:53am
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Hmmmmm...an even more important question for me is: What if one has loved...but never "throughly been in love"...but has experienced being "fully loved" ...turned their back on it several times...and moved on with no qualms?

Will karma bite me in the you-know-what...and if and when I finally know what loving someone feels like, turn on me like a 'vicious-cycle' monster, jumping out of a dark corner screaming "Aha!"... and make me suffer for all the dastardly things I've done to those that loved me?

Don't we get some sort of 'get-out-of-jail-free' card for being stoopid, moronic idiots... full of arrogance? Just wonderin'....

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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #8  August 26,2009, 12:00pm

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The one thing I would add is not to be so sure of what's lacking in other people's lives. A superior attitude is never attractive.

As for a 3rd time...Try, and try again! The third time's the charm...
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I said I was LUCKIER than SOME people. Not better than everbody.

If that strikes any reader as a superior attitude I would apologise but secretly feel that maybe the reader had self esteem issues. This charm thing is harder than it looks
 
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Let's both be optimistic for a third time charm! If I only knew about this scary world of dating out there, I might have stayed put!
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
The one thing I would add is not to be so sure of what's lacking in other people's lives. A superior attitude is never attractive.

As for a 3rd time...Try, and try again! The third time's the charm...
I said I was LUCKIER than SOME people. Not better than everbody.

If that strikes any reader as a superior attitude I would apologise but secretly feel that maybe the reader had self esteem issues. This charm thing is harder than it looks[/quote]

Yeah..you did come off like that...but so did I.

It is what it is...people will see superior attitudes no matter what you say. I've been married and engaed twice after my divorce. So, I have to be extremely careful 'what' and 'how' I how I say things, because there are folks on the boards (and in y real life) that have never been married and would like to be.

I have also had children during my marriage, but have never had a problem with dating due to the fact that I have children; nor have I ever had a problem dating due to my ethnicity, weight, or the car I drive.

Sorry if I sound facetious, but you will read threads that deal with these issues, and sometimes I have to stop myself from giggling to have the empathy needed to respond to these threads.

Life is what it is...do not beat yourself up over what your experiences are. Everyone's POV is important, and helps us all to 'see' life through other's lenses, and to understand differences.

I enjoyed reading your post...don't start second-guessing yourself because others don't see things through your life experiences.

Some folks sit on the porch all their .life and make observations/judgements based on what they think they know...while the rest of us get out of our comfortable wombs... live life... and make our own observations...not based on what we have learned growing up, or what relationship pundits say we should be doing.

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