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I think everyone grieves in their own way, and at their own pace. But, most importantly, I think it is imperative for one to have emotionally healed from their divorce before they begin dating. Great post, Saul.
- August 26th, 2009, 05:50 pm
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Parts of it will always give you pain Saul, that's divorce. We were together 14 years and it probably took me 7 years after the d to realize my heart didn't beat differently when he walked into the house. It's been 14 years since the d and once in a while I get a twinge for what I - the family - didn't get to have.

It's OK to not want to discuss it but part of you will always be on the defense because of it. That defense mechanism is meant to keep your emotional strength intact. I have found with some men I have been too trusting and others not trusting enough.

You can use the d-age formula if you like but the heart will always win. Don't pass up an opportunity because she's not there yet - I think a great relationship would be worth a different formula.
- August 26th, 2009, 06:28 pm
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Saul: While I completely accept and respect your right to date whomever you choose, I was just wondering if you had factored in the different state protocols for applying for divorce when determining your divorce age number. Some states require only 6 months separation, others a year. Since I've been fortunate enough not to have been divorced in all 50 states , I'm assuming there are other numbers that apply to the mix. Also, if a couple had been 'roommates' for the majority of their marriage's later years and there are no children involved, these individuals may, or may not, be emotionally ready to date in a shorter period of time than someone who thought everything was wonderful and then the 'bomb' was dropped. Just something to add to the pot and stir.
- August 26th, 2009, 08:35 pm
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