neardc is offline neardc Post #11  August 24,2009, 3:02pm
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Oooh, I'm already getting some of that.
Now, Mr_Right; I'm not talking about "playing doctor"!
 
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I guess it's all on how you approach the subject...my sister took a proactive one..she lulled her boyfriend to sleep while trimming his comb over and buzz..buzz...buzz..he became beautifully bald. He made a handsome and much younger looking husband
 
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Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #13  August 24,2009, 3:19pm
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neardc wrote :
Now, Mr_Right; I'm not talking about "playing doctor"!
I wasn't even thinking that, but now I am.
 
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Honestly, I don't know many women who complain about how their husbands look--their complaints seem to be with how their husbands act toward them or with what their husbands will or won't do to help out with the home/children.

I do know a few women who will complain about their husband's appearance if it's coupled with a health concern i.e., "His cholesterol is through the roof, the doctor told him he has to change his diet and exercise more to help bring it down, and now he's gained 20 pounds." Even then, it's not really about his appearance; it's frustration over his choices concerning his health.
 
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HappyandLight is offline HappyandLight Post #15  August 24,2009, 3:46pm
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We all chunk up as we age. Don't believe me, see image below. It happens to us ALL."

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Um, this is not true for all. Not ALL of us chunk up. Some do not. My mother died at 81 and she was svelte to the very end. She even had a figure still and looked very slick in pants. I have a landscaping lady friend...in her late 60's, and she is svelte, as well.

Yes, it's tempting to think that getting fat when we get older is natural and happens to ALL but this isn't true. There are lots of elderly people who are not fat, just look around.

Getting fat when you are older is a natural reaction to eating too much, not eating a natural diet and not getting enough exercise. Oh, yes, glands play a role but you can heal those thru diet and herbs (I did!)

I went out with a woman in her 50's. I am 42. I hadn't seen her in about 17 years. She got fat. Which, to me, doesn't make her less so, it's just how it was. She was not nice, though and hissed at me "you are going to get fat, too".

Um, no. I am svelte now (120" 5' 6") and know how to eat. I will stay slim. For my whole life. I know it.

No, not everyone gets fat. I sure don't plan on doing so.
 
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HappyandLight is offline HappyandLight Post #16  August 24,2009, 3:51pm
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I can handle men going bald if they don't try to hide it and keep other aspects of themselves in shape...

Meaning....exercise, stay fit, stay slim, eat clean and healthy, etc etc.

I am with a man right now who doesn't exercise enough. This isn't easy for me because I've exercised my whole life. I enjoy it and I enjoy who it makes me feel/look.

It's disappointing because he could be sexier and if he was in shape we could have more adventures together. I am working on it.

I suppose if it gets really bad....heavy weight gain then I would say "it's too much I am not attracted". I haven't had that yet, and hope I do not.
 
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I agree with browneyegirl and happyandlight. My sweetie is balding and it doesn't bother me in the least! I will say that too much of a weight gain would not change the way I feel about him, but I would not be as attracted to him physically. That is normal, I think, to be attracted to what is healthy. I am pushing 50 and it is harder every year to maintain a healthy weight, but I am, today, much healthier than I was in my thirties. I had a wake up call yesterday with a pair of jeans and I am cutting out all but 1 starch per day to get back into a comfy range. I want to be able to do things with my partner, and lets face it, intimate relations is much better without the "added baggage"!! (Notice: the bald thing is history as it is too small a detail to make a blip on my relationship radar.)
 
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I'm with the other person who said that it's not so much how he changes physically as it is what he does and doesn't do. For me, I get less attracted to someone with time if he stops helping out around the house and just expects me to cheerfully do all the work while he surfs the net or does something else. Or if I simply feel less appreciated as a person, and as his partner. I don't mean not getting flowers anymore, or gifts or stuff like that. A spontaneous hug and having him say he loves and appreciates all I do would go a LONG way. As would a foot rub after a long day. Or having him cook dinner and have it ready when I get home. Respect me, appreciate me, keep yourself in reasonable shape and I'll do the same for you.
 
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Mine is bald, admittedly chunky, and still utterly adorable.
 
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DLance is offline DLance Post #20  August 24,2009, 8:35pm
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ok, I never looked that good, but God I will never look that bad. I like my jucing and running. Arnold needs a full lenght coat and glasses plus a baseball cap to match the other nasty look overweight champs.
 
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