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boccabum wrote :
It means she knows you're attracted to her and want to be more than friends but she isn't attracted to you. And that she reserves the right to switch this status. And she'll continue to be your friend and receive the attention you give her even though she's with someone else.
I'm going to have to agree with this one.
- August 23rd, 2009, 07:59 pm
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trixie1868 wrote :
I know this one.

If you two spend time together she could easily see that she will sleep with you and start something of a relationship (so you've given her a sign that you'd be up for that too, right?).

She's not in a good place; probably likes you but really doesn't like herself and thinks that she'll just start something that she can't finish. She'll then abandon the whole thing and hurt you. Then obviously you won't be friends anymore and she'll end up loathing herself that bit more.

Is she doing anything to diminish her self loathing? If you're interested in each other then that is your way forward.

Where are you getting that nonsense from that she does not like herself or is self loathing? In order to be seductive, one must feel good about them self to make it enticing enough for him, to ask the board to decipher her note! Not in a good place, means that she is dating one of their mutual friends and that she does not want to be a source of hurt to anyone, but I'm yours if you want me?

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- August 23rd, 2009, 08:01 pm
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Why not ask her to clarify???
- August 23rd, 2009, 08:11 pm
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If you think someone getting close to you means that they will ultimately get hurt means that you think you're a bad person.

If she'd got a boyfriend / was seeing someone else there wouldn't be a mystery so this email wouldn't need deciphering.

She's not trying to seduce him, if she was trying to seduce him she would have met up with him.

William Shatner would never have mastered the Kling Ons if he didn't have the ability to read between the lines. Don't worry, Harvey7, you'll learn.
- August 24th, 2009, 12:02 pm
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johnnytwo wrote :
I got this email.. from a friend of mine.... What does it really mean???
I've been thinking about us getting together tomorrow and I decided that I can't do it. I want very much to see you, but If we were to see each other I would constantly be feeling that there could be much more to our friendship had we met at a different time and place, and I really don't believe that I could spend time with you without wanting to get closer to you - which would ultimately only hurt you. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say. I don't want to lose your friendship
Easy...
that's the old "it's not you...it's me"....speech.
Or, a derivation of it anyway.
- August 24th, 2009, 01:03 pm
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Jagged Edge....yeah that's it. Heed her words, it will save you from a world of hurt.
- August 24th, 2009, 02:29 pm
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- August 24th, 2009, 05:16 pm
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johnnytwo wrote :
I got this email.. from a friend of mine.... What does it really mean???
I've been thinking about us getting together tomorrow and I decided that I can't do it. I want very much to see you, but If we were to see each other I would constantly be feeling that there could be much more to our friendship had we met at a different time and place, and I really don't believe that I could spend time with you without wanting to get closer to you - which would ultimately only hurt you. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say. I don't want to lose your friendship
Sounds like she likes you enough to have your friendship and maybe even a sex partner but does not desire a relationship.
- August 24th, 2009, 10:04 pm
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trixie1868 wrote :
If you think someone getting close to you means that they will ultimately get hurt means that you think you're a bad person.

If she'd got a boyfriend / was seeing someone else there wouldn't be a mystery so this email wouldn't need deciphering.

She's not trying to seduce him, if she was trying to seduce him she would have met up with him.

William Shatner would never have mastered the Kling Ons if he didn't have the ability to read between the lines. Don't worry, Harvey7, you'll learn.
Well Trixie, Only Jonnytwo Step can answer that one, right? (fingers tap keyboard* Mrs. Ed Norton H'ummm?)
I thought it was nonsense to say that she did not have a sweet tooth for Jonny Boy combined with hurt or "that they will ultimately get hurt means that you think you're a bad person." The hurt is that she believes that she is the superior sexual being like a lioness in heat and once he get a taste of her? Well you can finish reading between the lines, right. By the way, do you have any experience with being the superior sexual being like a lioness in heat?

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- August 25th, 2009, 11:31 am
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Harvey, do you only write when you're drunk?
- August 25th, 2009, 05:54 pm
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