The Silent Treatment! What is that about?


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olneyjeeps is offline olneyjeeps Post #21  August 20,2009, 8:51pm
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KungFuFtr wrote :
Buy someone chocolates, lunch and a nice note? Why use positive reinforcement for negative behaviors?
Ditto... express your unhappyness with her action, seriously consider moving on
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #22  August 26,2009, 10:20am

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KungFuFtr wrote :
Buy someone chocolates, lunch and a nice note? Why use positive reinforcement for negative behaviors?

Cos Harvey is a fan of the old silent treatment, aint that right Harvey? Harvey sees himself as the recipient of those chocolates my friend!

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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #23  August 26,2009, 10:27am

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In my book genuine fury is a more acceptable reason for blanking someone out. I can understand that someone made angry by my opinions would need time out to calm down and gather their thoughts. So long as that person makes the first move to communicate when they're level headed again.

I vow now, in writing and with witnesses, to run screaming for the next passive aggressive with-holding and manipulative bully that attempts the silent treatment on me for any other reason.

Lets all put our feet down now and demand reasonable, grown up conversation to iron out the glitches. Are we all in this together?

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To hell with the silent treatment. It is such an underhanded low blow, such a manipulative act that i find it to be despicable. You don't want to talk to your partner? Fine, but have the damn decency to tell them why.

I also swear that the next female i find that tries to invoke the silent treatment on me instead of trying to work things out in a productive manner will be gone from my life. If you have a problem, an issue in mind then why not open up and talk about it to try to resolve it? If you find it necessary to shut down emotionally, to act like a cold stranger, to a person that deeply cares about, then I want nothing to do with you.

Just my thoughts on the silent treatment
 
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its passive aggressive to say the least. Perhaps you hit a nerve and your partner knows your right and doesnt have an answer, so they are hiding behind a pretend hurt. If questioning thier commitment is what spurred this, i would now question thier maturity level to HANDLE a commitment. Send an email, speak your peace, if they want to pout then move on and take that as your answer to thier commitment level.
 
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[quote=CRKid321;721643]To hell with the silent treatment. It is such an underhanded low blow, such a manipulative act that i find it to be despicable. You don't want to talk to your partner? Fine, but have the damn decency to tell them why.

I also swear that the next female i find that tries to invoke the silent treatment on me instead of trying to work things out in a productive manner will be gone from my life. If you have a problem, an issue in mind then why not open up and talk about it to try to resolve it? If you find it necessary to shut down emotionally, to act like a cold stranger, to a person that deeply cares about, then I want nothing to do with you.

Can we get an HELL YEAH?! Wise approach indeed my friend.
 
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CRKid321 wrote :
To hell with the silent treatment. It is such an underhanded low blow, such a manipulative act that i find it to be despicable. You don't want to talk to your partner? Fine, but have the damn decency to tell them why.

I also swear that the next female i find that tries to invoke the silent treatment on me instead of trying to work things out in a productive manner will be gone from my life. If you have a problem, an issue in mind then why not open up and talk about it to try to resolve it? If you find it necessary to shut down emotionally, to act like a cold stranger, to a person that deeply cares about, then I want nothing to do with you.

Just my thoughts on the silent treatment
+1 And I also swear that the next man that invokes the silent treatment on me will be gone from my life as this one is. It is so immature. Talk about the situation, say something, break it off, whatever, but if two people are in a relationship and have known each other for three years, then I think a word or two is in order. Resolve the issue.
I don't know how long this 'silent treatment' is going to last, but I've had time to see things in a whole different light.

All I know is I'm back on the market. Life's too short to wait on foolishness!
 
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Silent Treatment = Cave Dwelling

Both are extremely hurtful to the person being shut out.

More often than not, when a guy does it they call it "cave dwelling." When a woman does it, they call it the "silent treatment." No matter what you name it, it is the same behavior.

To any guy who defends "cave dwelling," look at all the guys on here who are condemning the "silent treatment." It's the same hurtful behavior, and calling "caving" guy behavior does not make it any more acceptable.

If you want to end a relationship, just do it. Don't put the other person through this agony.
 
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