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TheThinker wrote :
Like an old saying: "You only learn by making mistakes.."
And then one of my favorites: "I never learned anything by listening to the sound of my own voice"
Actually I think listening to your own voice is one of the reasons Posting here is useful. Like another person said, you just need to put it together in words. Then maybe we answer our own questions?
- August 15th, 2009, 03:20 pm
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cp30 wrote :
sometimes people just need to get their thoughts on paper, helps to organize it, vent, get it straight.

I think as adults we tend not to have the social networks we used to depend on when we were younger. Sometimes it is just nice to have people to talk to....sometimes a problem seems much huger than it is, until you release it.

People can be helpful, validating or make you think of things you hadn't thought of.

I think also as adults, even if we do have friends we can talk to, we don't want to trouble them with every little detail of our personal lives.

Also, if we are internet dating, we may not want to talk to people in our lives about it.

Personally, I post here a lot also because it is just interesting to me. It's a subject of interest just like geography is to me. I'm interested in how other people think and feel about things.

Over time, people can and do change opinions of mine. It's a bit of an education, here. In numerous ways.

That said, I don't know why or what motives everyone else has for posting. But my guess would be that at least half the time people need to vent. Other times they really want to be wrong and have people tell them to "give him another chance" other times people have had enough and just need the push to say "I can leave"

when it comes to internet dating though I think there are tons of clueless newbs out there who genuinely need our advice!
This is true.
- August 15th, 2009, 07:50 pm
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Comedian wrote :
Plus it's really intersting to see when pople get angry.
If the OP wanted validation and doesn't get it...
Such a Comedian!
- August 15th, 2009, 07:54 pm
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D: All of the above.

But if the response is constructive, then it's always a learning experience. Of course, you left out option E: For attention. I think some posters, because the questions are so way out there, have just made up situations to get attention.
- August 15th, 2009, 08:34 pm
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Along the same line. I need your opinion about a situation. It is a shares house, separate entrance everything completely separate Why would the realotor say when you get to know the other tene
ant better you can give them your key, both tenants will be woman.???
- August 15th, 2009, 08:39 pm
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It is a good idea to seek dating advice, because 1,000 heads (or however many are on these discussion boards) are better than one.

So long as one is receptive to all of the viewpoints given on their thread topic, it can be a productive experience.
- August 15th, 2009, 08:56 pm
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Not all questions are necessarily "advice" questions. Some questions are like poll questions, asking for opinions or preferences such as, "Would you date an amputee?"
- August 15th, 2009, 10:11 pm
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emerraald wrote :
Along the same line. I need your opinion about a situation. It is a shares house, separate entrance everything completely separate Why would the realotor say when you get to know the other tene
ant better you can give them your key, both tenants will be woman.???
Why not call the Realtor and ask to clarify her statement about giving them your key? or did she mean to have keys made for them?
Note you can always put in an extra dead bolt lock on your door if you don't want them to have access to your living space. But I would check with her.

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- August 15th, 2009, 11:01 pm
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OverAnalyzer wrote :
My question: do you feel it is truly beneficial to ask an opinion after giving a one-sided synopsis, or do you think one might just want someone to take their side?

I think the only synopsis a person can truly give is a one-sided synopsis. If you think about it, the only side you often know and understand is your own. I think that's why most people come and seek advice; they are hoping by presenting their perspective that they might get alternative ways of looking at their situation. Of course there will also be people who only want others to take their side, but you can usually spot them based on their replies to posts on the thread.

Or do you think by the time the question is posted we already know the answer and we are simply looking for validation.

Sometimes I think people already know the answer, but there is that part of them that is still just a bit uncertain. Or maybe they are insecure and do just need the validation. However, for the most part, I think people really are looking for alternative insight to their situation. Granted, it may seem like we see the same old questions and threads over and over again, but they are often from different people. Everyone has to start somewhere at some time, right?
Apparently I have to write something outside of the quote to get it to post...as if I didn't say enough already!
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Opinions are always valuable, even if only as a reality check.
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