007girl is offline 007girl Post #1  August 12,2009, 3:56pm
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OKAY, I'LL TRY TO KEEP THIS AS SHORT AS POSSIBE. ONE EVENING MY BF AND I HAD PLANNED THIS INCREDIBLE, ROMANTIC EVENING TOGETHER AT HIS PLACE. I WAS EAGER AND EXCITIED TO SEE HIM. HE PLANNED TO COOK, DESSERTS, THE WHOLE NINE YARDS. WE BEGIN THE EVENING AROUND 6:30 IN THE EVENING ON A SATURDAY. WHEN I ARRIVED AT HIS PLACE, HE WAS COOKING, HE WAS HAPPY TO SEE ME, AND THE EVENING BEGIN WITH SOFT JAZZ PLAYING, HE EVEN BOUGHT SOME CHAMPANGE, PLUS OR FAVORITE RED WINE, DINNER ON THE PATIO AND JUST GREAT CONVERSATION AND OUR USUAL LAUGHTER. NO RED FLAGS OF ANY KIND, SO FAR...... A PERFECT OROMANTIC EVENING.......ONE OF THE BEST HE AND I EVER HAD.

HE AND I HAVE BEEN DATING FOR ALMOST TWO YEARS,.....SO WE WERE GETTING VERY, VERY CLOSE, SPENT A LOT OF QUALITY TIME TOGETHER. WE EVEN TOOK AN OUT OF TOWN TRIP TOGETHER(ROMANTIC WEEKEND GET-AWAY).

AFTER DINNER WE SAT BY THE POOL AND WE ACTUALLY FELL ASLEEP IN EACH OTHER'S ARMS IN A PATIO LOUNG CHAIR. THE MOON WAS FULL AND THE STARS WHERE EVERYWHERE. WE EVENTUALLY GOT UP AND WENT INSIDE TO GO TO BED......WE MADE LOVE AND FELL ASLEEP......

EARLY SUNDAY MORNING.......MY BF GOT UP, AND I COULD SMELL COFFEE. I GOT UP TO GO TO THE REST ROOM.....HE SAID SOMETHING AS I WAS WALKING PASS HIM. WHAT EXACTLY DID HE SAY.......I DON'T NOW BUT I JUST ASSUME HE WAS SAYING SOMETHING ABOUT GETTING UP FOR BREAKFAST.

WELL, AFTER BAOUT 30 TO 40 MINUTES.....HE HAVE HAD A CUP OF COFFEE......I AM STARVING FOR BREAKFAST.......HE JUST DIDN'T OFFER ME ANY BREAKFAST....OR COFFEE......

WELL, IT IS ABOUT 11:00 SUNDAY MORNING......I AM UPSET WITH HIM THAT HE DIDN'T OFFER ME ANY BREAKFAST....... NOT SO MUCH AS A GLASS OF WATER......I FINALLY DECIDED IT IS TIME FOR ME TO GO HOME AND GET SOMETHIGNT TO EAT AND GET SOME SLEEP SINCE WE HAD A LONG EVENING/NIGHT. I FOUND IT KIND OF USETING THAT HE WOULD SAY THAT HE HAD TO GET READY FOR WORK ON MONDAY AND THAT HE NEEDED TO RUN TO THE STORE NAD GET HIS LAUNDRY STARTED........

WHAT?.....THIS CAN'T WAIT UNTIL I LEAVE........BUT BECAUSE I HAVE DECIDED TO LEAVE......HE MAKES SURE THAT I GET THE HECK OUT.....BECAUSE HE HAS TO GO RUN HIS ERRANS......PLEASE......RED FLAG!!!!

NOW, IT IS ABOUT 12:OO NOON WHEN I GET HOME......NORMALLY WE BOTH TEXT THE OTHER AND SAY WE MADE IT HOME SAFELY.......I DIDN'T DO THIS WHEN I GOT HOME......I GOT SOME BREAKFAST, AND TOOK A QUICK NAP........BY THIS TIME IT IS ABOUT 2:PM......SO I IMMEDIATELY TEXT HIM TO LET HIM KNOW I GOT HOME SAFELY.........HE DIDN'T TEXT ME BACK WHICH WAS THE SECOND "RED FLAG"........

ALL DAY SUNDAY HE NEVER TEXT ME BACK......SO FIRST THING MONDAY MORNING.....ABOUT 8:30 HE TEXT ME TO SAY JUST THIS..." HOPE YOU HAD A "GREAT" SUNDAY.......

WELL WE WERE BOTH AT WORK BY THIS TIME......SO I WAS HAPPY THAT I HAD A FEW MINUTES TO REPLY TO HIS TEXT MESS.....I SENT HIM A VERY SWEET TEXT THAT SAID.......NO, DIDN'T HAVE A GREAT SUNDAY BECAUSE I WASN'T WITH THE MAN THE I CHERISH AND ADORE.....THANK YOU FOR ANOTHER BEAUTIFUL AND ROMANTIC EVENING/NIGHT...XOXOXO.......
HE NEVER TEXT ME BACK.......AND TO THIS VERY DAY....I HAVE NOT HEARD BACK FROM HIM......NOR DID I TEXT HIM BACK!!....
SO, HE DISSAPPEARED!!!!! WHAT DID I DO? WHAT JUST HAPPENED? WAS THIS ALL JUST A GAME?
BY THE WAY....THE FIRST RED FLAG WAS......I NOTICED AT ONE TIME AS I WAS COMING IN FROM THE PATIO.....HE WAS INSIDE CHECKING HIS CELL PHONE.......MAYBE AN EX GIRLFRIEND????
CAN ANYONE HELP ME UNDERSTAND WHAT THE HECK JUST HAPPENED TO THIS TERRIFIC GUY.....OR WAS HE WAS JUST ANOTHER "PLAYER"......AND WAS I SOOOO STUPID AND BLINDED BY HIS CHARM???? HELP!!!!
 
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Hi 007girl,

Please calm down first, writing is small caps could help those of us in reading your post. Whatever happens, you can only best deal with situation with a cool head

It's been only a few days but an obvious strange behavior that you haven't experienced in your past 2 years of dating. There could be reasons behind this, I can't speculate (whether it is that he's with someone else or is he just don't want to be with you, or he just needed time over some issues he feels important) as i don't know either you or him.

The only way to find out the real answer and having some sort of closure is to establish communication with him, yet it sounds like he's not interested in communicating right now. Your options are:

1. wait for a while (however long you feel is necessary and comfortable in trying to get this relationship work)

2. move on and leave it at that

Either options are not easy for you, but recognise that there's no way to force someone talk to you when they don't wish to do so. Making assumptions and judgement as to what's going on in his life can only get yourself more troubled and confused. The reality sometimes hurts, and the options we have is to accept and learn.

Good luck...
 
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Hi 007girl,

Please calm down first, writing is small caps could help those of us in reading your post. Whatever happens, you can only best deal with situation with a cool head

It's been only a few days but an obvious strange behavior that you haven't experienced in your past 2 years of dating. There could be reasons behind this, I can't speculate (whether it is that he's with someone else or is he just don't want to be with you, or he just needed time over some issues he feels important) as i don't know either you or him.

The only way to find out the real answer and having some sort of closure is to establish communication with him, yet it sounds like he's not interested in communicating right now. Your options are:

1. wait for a while (however long you feel is necessary and comfortable in trying to get this relationship work)

2. move on and leave it at that

Either options are not easy for you, but recognise that there's no way to force someone talk to you when they don't wish to do so. Making assumptions and judgement as to what's going on in his life can only get yourself more troubled and confused. The reality sometimes hurts, and the options we have is to accept and learn.

Good luck...
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #4  August 12,2009, 5:44pm
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007 girl is this an LDR?

How often do you see each other or have you seen each other over the last 2 years?
 
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Harvey7 is offline Harvey7 Post #5  August 12,2009, 10:51pm

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Did you ever read the story of the "Flame and the mothe"? See my post
My girlfriend wants to spend more time with her family than me anymore.

Why didn't you ask, What's for breakfast?
Why didn't you offer to fix breakfast for the both of you?
Why didn't you make some toast to go with the coffee? Maybe you had an attitude that frosted his cookies.
Your entitlement attitude certainly didn't go over big with him and maybe he got tired of it.
It's over and it was your attitude that caused it. Move on, and what did you have for breakfast that day? Was it worth it?

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