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Any thoughts on the practice of singles over 50 living together? Do you feel it's a different phenomenon for the middle-aged than for the young'uns?

I think that many younger couples see living together as a "trial" or probationary period that leads to marriage (if all goes well), whereas older couples often live together with the understanding that marriage is not the end goal.

Or could it also be that younger couples are more often in that "just-can't-wait-gotta-be-with-him/her-NOW", while older couples might have a more companionable (though still sexual) need for the other? Is either more foolish or wiser?

Just throwing ideas out there...

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- August 12th, 2009, 02:41 pm
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My grandfather lived with a woman for about the last 15 years of his life (when he was in his 70s and 80s). At that age I think the old social taboo of people living together without being married is less. Even my parents, who are pretty straight laced and religious didn't really have a problem with him doing this.
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My grandfather lived with a woman for about the last 15 years of his life (when he was in his 70s and 80s). At that age I think the old social taboo of people living together without being married is less. Even my parents, who are pretty straight laced and religious didn't really have a problem with him doing this.

I agree that the older a couple is, the less objection even very conservative folks have.
I'm assuming it's because they can't imagine any bedroom shenanigans occurring between Granny and her "gentleman friend". From what I hear from friends working or living in nursing homes and retirement communities, though, age is no barrier to desire.
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I was considering that living arrangement. I wanted a ring before I made that commitment. It was a long distance relationship.
I previoulsy had been married for a long time divorced for 10 tens.just my feeling of how I would have been ok with living together at this time. I had lived with someone when I was young. That is a nooooo.
I need to add I am over 50.
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As people grow older they more times than not have lost their spouses. Although they are attracted to another person they just are not willing or desire to get married again. Instead more and more elder couples are cohabitating without the legal entanglements that marriage would bring to their respective families. The one big problem the elder citizens are now experiencing is acquiring HIV.
- August 12th, 2009, 04:47 pm
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I've heard of widows not remarrying because they don't want to lose a husband's pension. I don't actually know any personally; I believe that mattered more in times past when women didn't have their own sources of income.

For myself, I'm a marriage person!
- August 12th, 2009, 05:30 pm
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I’ve read that people at all ages respond rationally to incentives. In the case of old people, it can be eligibility for benefits or the disinclination to complicate inheritance. Young people may have family law fears, anticipated employment dislocations, or the expectation that the current partner is not the right fit.

You’ll never hear me criticizing rational response.
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Speaking for my people, I'm a card carrying AARP member who would shack up in a minute with the right man! LOL...

I can remember being in my 20's-30's wondering if my mother and father had s-e-x! OMG...my guess is lots of it!

When you are young, you don't know what you don't know!

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When it comes to older older people, sometimes marriage isn't an option, because it messes with their fixed incomes. If they were to marry, they would loose benefits.
- August 12th, 2009, 09:25 pm
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