dietpepsi is offline dietpepsi Post #1  August 11,2009, 11:59am
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If you can have an amazing passionate premarital affair (lasting 1-2 months) in the very, very near future with someone that you're incredibly attracted but know for sure that you have no future with -- would you do it?

You're both single and like each other more than just physically, but the obstacles (lifestyle differences, distance, etc) are there. Possibility of one or both of you getting hurt.
 
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If you can have an amazing passionate premarital affair (lasting 1-2 months) in the very, very near future with someone that you're incredibly attracted but know for sure that you have no future with -- would you do it?

You're both single and like each other more than just physically, but the obstacles (lifestyle differences, distance, etc) are there. Possibility of one or both of you getting hurt.
Stop trying to justify your actions your just horny and want to jump her bones. Amazing that you would be intimidated by such trivial things as lifestyle, differences and distance! You are coming across as a wiggle worm.

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If you are talking about having a fling just prior to your marrying someone else - the answer is definitely "No". OR - have the fling and cancel the wedding.

If you're just talking about two singles with no commitments to others and you actually like each other (and take precautions against pregnancy), go for it.
 
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dietpepsi wrote :
If you can have an amazing passionate premarital affair (lasting 1-2 months) in the very, very near future with someone that you're incredibly attracted but know for sure that you have no future with -- would you do it?

You're both single and like each other more than just physically, but the obstacles (lifestyle differences, distance, etc) are there. Possibility of one or both of you getting hurt.
A premarital affair? You mean, you want to cheat on your fiance, correct? There might be some "obstacles" in your current relationship, if you're willing to have a premarital affair with this other person. Maybe you should rethink the marriage issue?
 
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Harvey7 is offline Harvey7 Post #5  August 11,2009, 1:42pm

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A premarital affair? You mean, you want to cheat on your fiance, correct? There might be some "obstacles" in your current relationship, if you're willing to have a premarital affair with this other person. Maybe you should rethink the marriage issue?
It's called having your cake and eating it to!

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I'm gonna guess you meant two single, unattached people.

Sounds great but St Louis is too far away for day trips.
 
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Not in a minivan, I'm sure.
 
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I was thinking about introducing the trucks and seeing how they hit it off.
 
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dietpepsi wrote :
If you can have an amazing passionate premarital affair (lasting 1-2 months) in the very, very near future with someone that you're incredibly attracted but know for sure that you have no future with -- would you do it?

You're both single and like each other more than just physically, but the obstacles (lifestyle differences, distance, etc) are there. Possibility of one or both of you getting hurt.
That's a loaded question. What kind of obstacles? There's obstacles like he works all the time and would rarely have time for a relation ship. Then, there's obstacles like he's under federal investigation for racketeering and drug trafficing.
 
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Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #10  August 12,2009, 1:44am
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It's time to work on your current relationship or break it off if you're having thoughts like that.
 
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