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Maybe immaturity on the part of both parties? Can't really imagine any circumstances that would cause me or convince me to remarry my ex!
- August 5th, 2009, 09:55 pm
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
Stay away from her!

She obviously does not know who she is, what, or who she wants in life. She is defining herself in terms of men and marriages - she only feels balanced when she is attached to someone, probably almost anyone will do (although I'm sure she has some vague criteria there, such as looks or money, most likely).

I feel sorry for her and, even more so, for her children, who do not deserve to be put on that particular roller coaster - it's unlikely that they will grow up to be well-adjusted adults in the environment she is subjecting them too.

If she will listen, recommend she gets some counselling for herself and also some family counselling for her kids. What she is doing to them is a crime in my eyes!
If you did the math you would have realized that her kids are adults today!
Why shouldn't her kids be well adjusted adults they had two loving parents with separate household and when things are going poorly with one parent you move in with the other one. You might be color blind on this one Dr. IceCream.?

PS, One L in Counseling.

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- August 6th, 2009, 12:16 am
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They were meant to be as a couple, the problem is simple they had no tolerance for each others "idiosyncrasies".

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- August 6th, 2009, 12:22 am
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They love each other. Perhaps toxically, perhaps not. But there is something (that none of us up here know about) that they do not have the tools to resolve. The children were very young at the time of the first estrangement and remarriage and grew to adulthood within the second marriage. Nothing in the OP indicates how peaceful either of the two 15-year marriages were, so we don't have enough information to predict the level of emotional damage to the children. The second husband, the second wife and the OP were rebounds. One would hope that knowing their history, no one else would be so foolish as to get mixed up in it and become collateral damage.
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- August 6th, 2009, 09:04 am
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They are both insane and deserve each other?... I feel sorry for anyone who has gotten in their insane can't-live-with-them, can't-live-without-them drama. Yikes
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I dated a lady that had been divorced for about a year. I found out a little later that she had been married to him once for 15 years and got divorced. She had two very small children and married a person about 1 year later and that lasted about 2 years. About 1 or 2 yrs later she remarriage her ex again and again was married for 15 years. She divorced him and within a year started dating me. We dated and were quite close for two years. Her ex got remarried and was married for 1 year before his wife died. This was about a month before she broke up with me and within the next month started dating him . She has been seeing him for about a year and a half.....
Does anyone have an opinion as to why this continual back and forth, marriage re-marriage continues to happen. I have several theories on this but I would like someone else thought ...personally . thank you
- August 6th, 2009, 10:06 am
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I am surprised this woman is not in the part of NASA as she sounds like a space cadet.
- August 6th, 2009, 02:26 pm
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She probably keeps going back either because she loves him, or because she isn't comfortable being alone. I have no clue why they keep splitting up.

Either way, does this really look like someone who is capable of having a healthy relationship right now?
- August 6th, 2009, 10:36 pm
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So sad, espescially for the kids who will not know what a healthy relationship looks like... sounds like she is using relationships to fill void .. probably does not know how to be alone and be happy by herself... pattern will continue until she gets comfortable being alone and gets herself healthy and whole with out a man.... a relationship is only as healthy as it's least healthy member....
- August 7th, 2009, 07:56 am
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