CreolePrincess is offline CreolePrincess Post #31  August 7,2009, 4:45pm
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It is so complicated, ya'll, and it doesn't even have to be.

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Messing with a married is a bad deal and very bad karma. It will come bac to haunt you later. If a divorce is meant to be in his furture, you let it occur on its own. You don't want to become "the other woman" to his kids and peers. Remember, no matter how bad he says his marriage is, and it may be, he took vows to that woman, and he owes her a little respect and dignity than to going out with other women....even if she is going out with other men. Two wrongs don't make a right. And remember, there is always three sides to a story: his, hers, and the truth. Don't get pulled into the middle. If he's that great, take him AFTER he has signed divorced papers. Because right now, the grass just may look greener on the other side. Many men never really leave their wives. It's a common line.
 
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Zepp650 is offline Zepp650 Post #32  August 10,2009, 8:16am
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hmmm...yeah I remember this! He told me he was separated, living in a basement apartment. He neglected to tell me that his daughter lived on the third floor and his wife lived on the second floor ahahahhahha! Like you, I listened to his excuses. Heck we even went out together with his friends, went out to eat dinner, went shopping together. He didn't care a wit what anyone thought about seeing us together.

I had enough, it just did not sit well with me morally. I remembered being married. My ex is engaged to the woman he ran around with for ten yrs of our marriage. Why would I do this to some woman I did not know? She did nothing to hurt me. I broke it off and much to his dismay, it has stayed that way.

His story that it didn't matter, his marriage was over was bunk. He actively pursued a friend of mine. I told her, if you want to see him, that's your perogitive. It is over between us, I do not have any hard feelings. DURING this time of persueing T, he shows up at a church picnic with his wife, daughter and granddaughter and their dog. THE dog he bought from my sister. LMAO, I spent the night wondering if the dog would hear my voice and come running to me. All the pups in the litter still do that. LOL!

Rule number one, the ink must be dry on the divorce. It will save many complications ranging from drama to being used.

Btw, I have several more rules lol....can't say I follow them but they are excellent guidelines
 
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Icouldwriteabook is offline Icouldwriteabook Post #33  August 10,2009, 10:26am
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GenuineJ wrote :
I have experienced both sides of your story - One being I dated a man never married, no kids, had good chemistry but the 1st year we dated I still lived with my ex as the split was finalized. My daughter never accepted him and she knew all along what kind of man was good for her mom. I was being selfish and know see the bigger picture. The other recently - a married guy interested in a relationship with me- relationship meaning "lets hang out, order pizza and listen to some good music and be "friends". A dangerous territory for anyone. I resisted and proud of myself. The only one who will be there in the end for sure will be you and I have learned to trust in me. All I can say is that it is hard for both parties but in the end you have to do what is best for yourself and your kids (if any) Good luck
I had something similar once and I told the guy that he needed to spend the time with his wife and kids instead of me.
 
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Run - don't walk - away. Even if he's telling you the truth, I think that after ending a marriage he should spend a little time on his own to get his head together before getting into another relationship.
 
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