i remember reading somewhere a post about jealousy, it was said that jealousy is combined emotion of such element as fear, insecurity, anxiety, anger etc. Apart from lack of confidence in oneself, it shows a lack of trust in one's partner.

Like Becomingsabrina, i never thought i was the jealous type (at least this hasn't occurred in any of my previous relationships), with the person i'm currently dating (and having communication issues with) I begin to notice an insecure side of me coming out, our latest fight was initiated over that as well. I didn't like what i felt and how i felt, i came to realise after thinking about it, that like Dancingfool said, some of her actions made me feel that i'm rather insignificant or unimportant. or instead of saying her action made me feel certain way, I actually responded to her action with a pattern of thoughts which lead me to the assumption that i was no longer important to her. It takes time to understand the source of this feeling and and to work on it together in the relationship so that it doesn't become a larger issue. I won't say that anyone who shows jealousy should be discounted and taken off the list in a relationship.

I had a relationship with a girl who i perceived as very jealous in the beginning. She would be very upset if i want to go dancing, even taking her with me. Her thought of me going dancing with other people would be enough driving her so upset that we'll have a fight. Eventually i found out that her parents were ballroom dancing partners and together they had claimed some state titles in competition, but her father cheated on her mother with another dancer and left the family when her mother was very ill, the ill mother and young daughter struggled financially for a long time to just survive the daily living. That traumatic event have definitely left scars and she attributed to people go dancing rather than her unfaithful father. After understanding the source, and lots of reassurance, we eventually were able to go dancing together without much issue. This is just one example of where i think we shouldn't just run from our partner if there're signs of jealousy, there's always something behind the surface, it could be also that we didn't communicate in such way that our partner feels that we are committed.