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00J is offline 00J Post #21  July 28,2009, 10:47pm
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00J wrote :
3. He has offered to introduce me to his ex if it helps me realize it is over between them.
4. I am aware of the status of the divorce and what I am getting into regarding children, ex's etc.

Regarding #3, I would take him up on that and keep your eyes wide open to all the non-verbal communication going on. I would also ask for the time line for their divorce to be final. What is holding it up?

Regarding #4, maybe - maybe not on your being aware of what you're getting yourself into. There is a book titled "How To Survive Your Boyfriend's Divorce." I think it would be worth your while to pick up a copy and read it.

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On r and r you try to cram as much as you can in the short time you are home. It is hard to juggle girlfriends, family, etc and satisfy everone. You are also tired frome the 48hours of travel to get there. R and R is good, but never as good as you imagine.

You are both just people and thus need to realize that mistakes and dissappointments can occur. He is coming out of an intense environment and may take a few days to adjust. One can also feel guilt from being away from friends and family for months on end so tries extra hard to make it up to them, as well as maintain some kind of personnel life as well.

As far as sex on base. Give me a break??? You are working 7 days a week, 12 hours a day, and the ratio of men/woman does not work in the man's favor.
 
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I am sorry but the guy should finish one relationship before starting another. I was divorced for some time before I decided to look for another relationship. Keep in mind the separation lasted a year! Be careful. If someone is getting involved with you when he has unfinished business with someone else - that is an indication to problems and ethics. This will transfer to your relationship. Is that something you want to risk?
 
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This relationship have a great risk... don't move more...
 
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I could go off on a 14 page rant here, but I will spare you all the agony. I fell for a trap like this once and it just about destroyed my life. Married is married. Separated is still legally married. Until there is a divorce document in his grippy little mitt, he is NOT available! Run, don't walk, and don't look back!
 
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The original post is from July - I would love to know if it is working out....
OP, if you are still around, please update?

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