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Dating British guy, who is about to take a sabbatical. Not exclusive yet, but have broached the subject. When I asked him why I should go see him, he replied several times "cuz you're my mate".

Now I know that in the UK, mate is friend. Somehow I suspect he meant more. How often in the UK do you call your female friends mate? Wouldn't he just say "friends" instead?
 
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Obviously , you are going to see him and you are doing all the travelling and expenses? You haven't met him yet in person yet? If he didn't offer to pay your way, mate = friend
Don't read between the lines, there's nothing there.
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Dating British guy, who is about to take a sabbatical. Not exclusive yet, but have broached the subject. When I asked him why I should go see him, he replied several times "cuz you're my mate".

Now I know that in the UK, mate is friend. Somehow I suspect he meant more. How often in the UK do you call your female friends mate? Wouldn't he just say "friends" instead?
 
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No no no, he's not in Britain. Just from. He lives nearby and we've been seeing each other in person.

I agree. He should offer to split airfare which he hasn't. At the moment he's making pennies, though in a few years he will make a ton. As a consolation, he has offered to take care of everything once I show up at the airport where his temporary sabbatical will be.
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The only way you are going to know for sure is if you ask him. Communicating is rather important in any relationship - even just friendship. If you can't talk about the premise of your trip, where you are going to stay, how you will split/cover/share expenses, etc., you really don't have much going on between the two of you. Don't ask strangers to guess at his intentions because all you will get is wild guesses. Talk to your guy directly and know what's really on his mind and don't make decisions based on wild guesses from strangers on dating boards.
 
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The answer is simple, Buy the jack that's advertised on the net or cable the cost of a phone call (internet USB based.) is $0.00 Zero and you can call every day if you choose to. If you use a cable company as your phone company you may have free international calling! Everything else is meaningless.

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DancingFool wrote :
The only way you are going to know for sure is if you ask him. Communicating is rather important in any relationship - even just friendship. If you can't talk about the premise of your trip, where you are going to stay, how you will split/cover/share expenses, etc., you really don't have much going on between the two of you. Don't ask strangers to guess at his intentions because all you will get is wild guesses. Talk to your guy directly and know what's really on his mind and don't make decisions based on wild guesses from strangers on dating boards.
Thanks for the sanity check and wise words.
 
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