Chickie1984 is offline Chickie1984 Post #1  July 13,2009, 4:52pm
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I've been dating a super fantastic wonderful guy for just over a month (lol I know, I'm still in that stage and enjoying it) and he said I love you for the first time while I was giving him a handjob/blowjob! I got mad at him, now am insecure about my reaction because he said sorry for saying it at a time I didn't want him to ...? Now I don't know if he actually meant it and won't say it again until I say it (which I haven't, I'm not yet 100% super duper positive that I am in love with him, I'm falling for sure but not sure if I'm all the way there yet) or if he was just feeling really good at the time and made a mistake. And I'm scared to bring it up in case that might provoke him to just say it after the discussion. ... what do you guys think?
 
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txbubba is offline txbubba Post #2  July 13,2009, 4:58pm

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i don't think you should have been giving him a handjob/blowjob after only one month. yes, thats what i think.....

nah, i'm lying
 
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neardc is offline neardc Post #3  July 13,2009, 5:25pm
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Well, he definitely loved what you were doing! And, I would guess that he loved you for doing it. But, that's not the same as being in love with you, especially at this early stage of your, ummm, friendship.

Plus, I saw a rerun of Sex in the City recently where this sort of situation was covered (i.e., saying the "L" word in the throes of passion), and based on that, it would seem that one gets a pass on such expressions of ardor...lol (not that I'm seriously giving advice based on a tv show...lol).

Anyway, for now, why don't you just focus on getting to know each other better and deepening your relationship? If you feel at some point that you have truly fallen in love with him, you can tell him then. In the meantime, you know that you have a good trick up your sleeve for getting him to say it a little earlier should you so desire.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #4  July 13,2009, 5:37pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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JoJoBean is offline JoJoBean Post #5  July 13,2009, 5:55pm
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He loved the moment, of course. Not to take away from you in anyway. He was in a state of bliss.
 
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