love is not a feeling??

I think it's both, actually.

According to my own personal and yet to be published disctionary, Love is defined as a feeling opposite of Hate.

Love and Hate are partner emotions at opposite ends of the spectrum. The OPPOSITE of love and hate is INDIFFERENCE.
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Just food for thought! (chocolate flavored )

Can I please have a little bit more food to think over (nutty flavors mixed with a drizzle of alcohol are my favorite )

I have to agree. While I think there is value in making a 'decision' to be commited to a relationship...if a woman didn't 'feel' love for me I'd tell her we should end the relationship.

Fixed it for you Moon. Is that better? I'm throwing in some homemade coconut icecream with nuts and hot honey drizzled over top (your choice of alcohol). (This is really good with fried bananas....a staple at my favorite Thai restaurant!) YUMMY!!

There are a few opposing views here that are all probably correct to some degree / in their own way - and you're just arguing semantics because terms aren't being defined. IMO, love is both - or more specifically, something like falling "in love" is a feeling, but choosing to see the good in someone, accept them for who they are, contribute to their growth/well-being, etc - is a loving way to be (ie. decision). As people pointed out, there are different types of love - for parents, siblings, friends, partners, etc. And there are different aspects/expressions of love: a crush, lust, etc.

Basically, I believe a relationship that lacks the ability to love another in rational, spiritual, physical and emotional levels is going to suffer. Some days you will need one level to sustain the relationship, some days another. You are a whole person, you need a whole love.

I have to disagree with those who say that love is a verb. In my experience this view is an excuse for an endless list of expectations from your partner. It is a narcissistic view of love. "If you love me you will do all these things for me to make me happy". It's also a recipe to make your partner miserable. Lastly, it denies your own responsibility for your happiness.

Love is first and foremost a noun:

1 a (1): strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties (2): attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3): affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests b: an assurance of love
2: warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion
3 a: the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration b (1): a beloved person : darling —often used as a term of endearment (2)British —used as an informal term of address

The transitive verb is simply the act of experiencing the noun - not the acts you perform because you feel love for someone. If you want someone to love you because you think they are going to "do" lots of stuff for you, you have a wrongheaded view of relationships and it is unlikely you will ever be happy.

Of course, all of this makes it unlikely that love can be a choice in all but the most self-deluded of circumstances.