KungFuFtr is offline KungFuFtr Post #11  July 13,2009, 6:04am
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I just saved a bundle on child support by switching to condoms!

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It's more than a feeling...more than a feeling
 
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graceventually is offline graceventually Post #12  July 13,2009, 6:37am
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Atrraction, crushes, butterflies in the stomach....those are feelings.
Love is a decision.
 
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Harvey7 is offline Harvey7 Post #13  July 13,2009, 6:47am

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Love is a state of mind, which is also a state of being!

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I'm crippled by the fear That I've fallen too far to love

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I and really confused now
 
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HI Im a newbie here
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I and really confused now
And it shows...
 
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tommyboy047 is offline tommyboy047 Post #17  July 13,2009, 8:40am
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I think, love is a feeling. When in love with someone, you feel this love and sometimes deeply. You decide to commit to that person because you love them, not love them because you decide to love them. I would rather have someone who loves me because they feel it rather then decide to love me but then decide to commit to me because of the feeling of love. And you decide to stay with them through thick and thin because you feel love for them.
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Here's my experience. Love is something you do, and something others do to you. There's an energy flow to it, something spiritual if you will. When you feel someone loving you, a lot of us refer to that as "love." But in order to love the person who makes us feel that way, we have to actively love them. Love is giving, not merely passively receiving.

That's why there's so much more tied up in love than just an emotion. There's respect, admiration, trust, and a lot of other qualities that aren't on the tip of my brain. All of those are what cause us to love someone, or to choose to love someone.

I loved a woman for 14 years, and I loved her in part because I chose to, because I focused myself on the qualities that I saw in her. She wasn't capable of loving me back the same way, because she was content to feel the feeling of being loved and continue to call that "love."

It sounds cynical but what most of us call "loving" someone is actually them "loving" us. Maybe it's semantics, but that's the way I understand it.
 
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And, you can't just decide to stop loving someone you loved. It takes time to heal from a lost love not a decision. Sure you have to decide to to start the healing process because if you don't get to that point to decide to get over a loved one, you probably never will but you can't just decide and then the feeling is over, nope, no way, no how... grrrruuufffff (OZ).
 
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Love suffers long and is kind, love does not envy, love does not parade itself, is not puffed up, does not behave rudely, does not seek it's own, is not provoked, thinks no evil, does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.
 
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