gothustartus is offline gothustartus Post #101  October 24,2009, 4:40am
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It does make it easier! LOL
Nothing worse than giving yourself a hernia trying to lift the box you're standing in, without a handy tree branch and appropriate pulleys of course.
 
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Jandris is offline Jandris Post #102  November 2,2009, 10:45am
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And, you can't just decide to stop loving someone you loved. It takes time to heal from a lost love not a decision. Sure you have to decide to to start the healing process because if you don't get to that point to decide to get over a loved one, you probably never will but you can't just decide and then the feeling is over, nope, no way, no how... grrrruuufffff (OZ).
So true. You have to want to start the healing process, otherwise you will always be in love with the person.
 
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Love being a decision seems pretty accurate to me.

I can decide to find somoene attractive or not. I can decide if I can live with their annoying laugh or not. I can decide if the financial investment is worth it or not. I can decide if.... (get the point)
 
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Jandris is offline Jandris Post #104  November 3,2009, 3:33am
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
Love being a decision seems pretty accurate to me.

I can decide to find somoene attractive or not. I can decide if I can live with their annoying laugh or not. I can decide if the financial investment is worth it or not. I can decide if.... (get the point)
Love is in the heart. Love is blind. Decisions are made by the mind and can be 'clouded' by other things that are not part of love. Love is not about money, 'looks', or how someone laughs. You can't decide to love someone or not. If it is meant to happen, it will happen.

Love is the connect between two hearts. That connection is timeless and unbreakable.
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #105  November 3,2009, 10:13am

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
Love being a decision seems pretty accurate to me.

I can decide to find somoene attractive or not. I can decide if I can live with their annoying laugh or not. I can decide if the financial investment is worth it or not. I can decide if.... (get the point)
You've never been in love.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #106  November 3,2009, 10:14am

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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Jandris wrote :
So true. You have to want to start the healing process, otherwise you will always be in love with the person.
Jandris wrote :
Love is in the heart. Love is blind. Decisions are made by the mind and can be 'clouded' by other things that are not part of love. Love is not about money, 'looks', or how someone laughs. You can't decide to love someone or not. If it is meant to happen, it will happen.

Love is the connect between two hearts. That connection is timeless and unbreakable.
I have a horrible feeling you're both right. I'm doomed.
 
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Jandris is offline Jandris Post #107  November 3,2009, 10:32am
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I have a horrible feeling you're both right. I'm doomed.
I understand where you are coming from. I have doomed myself from being with 'the one'. A lot of bad decisions, that I made, has made it so. Live, love, learn, and maybe love again....
 
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You've never been in love.

Not true. I have loved in spite of their flaws. I chose to decide to not let undesireable qualities get in the way for the time the relationship lasted. However, ultimately, there was mutual agreement that each other's undesireable qualities were not worth putting up with for potentially 50-some years.
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There's a corner of my heart that still loves some of my old flames. Not that I think of them often ... it's just a general sense of fondness and affection.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #110  November 3,2009, 8:15pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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I can decide to find somoene attractive or not.
Really? I can't. I guess if it works for you....then go for it.
 
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