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Vass2009, I have to say for the first time in my entire life, I found bigger is not actually better. I am going to try and not be to specific here and hope not to get to graphic. I found with this particular women, first women ever been with that my size was actually to big. If I was an inch smaller it would be perfect for her. I could not go all the way in nor could she ride me because it hurt and I sure could feel me hitting the end of her inside. We talked about this because I could see in her face when this happen. For a while I tried not to enter all the way and found her g-spot did not require it anyway. I could get her off in other ways just as easy. In time she did get to the point where we could go hog wild in all positions but it took some time and patience Even now, with her, I do not need my size, I known where her spot is and my size is no matter in this case. But she now gives a pleasurable moan when all the way and now she can ride me so I can do my bra session. She is a petite girl so maybe that is why, heck, I don't know, this is a first time for me where size did not matter really. Now don't get me wrong, I would think 3 inches less would probably matter and no pencil sizes I would think also. You gotta be able to work that special spot, so I guess that comes with knowing how to use it. Find her special spot and find ways to hit that spot in every way you can. I have found that this spot is a little different for some women but once you know it, your sex life will be wonderful every time. So Vass2009, find her special spot and find all the ways you can hit that special spot. I am not a scary size but I did have a women say "Happy birthday to me" and my xwife commented on my size for a few years after the divorce, I think god did bless me in that area.

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- July 11th, 2009, 06:33 pm
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Funny thing is wonderwomen, this girl I am talking about is the first girl that asked me to take a STD test before we did anything. It was a scary thing for me because I took sex to freely since my divorce, never worried about STD's but it scared me to take a test non the less. I did it because it meant alot to her and like you said, it is the right thing to do. Happy to say I am totally clean and from that time forward I do not or will not take sex so freely anymore. I really think I have been lucky not to catch something. We shared our reports after because I gotta say, I was proud of mine. It is a very good feeling knowing now. I actually got everything else as well, 2 things of blood and 2 pee samples. I have nothing medically wrong with me and know where all my levels are at. I will surely go for another full test, see if anything changes in the future. I feel good about this, it surely is a good thing to do. It sure made our first time, mmmmmm GREAT!!!
- July 11th, 2009, 06:41 pm
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so the general vibe Im getting here is it doesnt matter that Im average, as long as its not too big or too small, and I can 'hit that spot' than I have nothing to worry about?
- July 11th, 2009, 07:24 pm
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vass2009 wrote :
so the general vibe Im getting here is it doesnt matter that Im average, as long as its not too big or too small, and I can 'hit that spot' than I have nothing to worry about?
Well, add to that that you're completely in love with each other and would do anything in the world for each other, and have hopes and dreams and plans for your future together, and are on the same page about religion, wanting kids, and where you're going to live, and can imagine still being in love when you're old and gray.... then maybe you have nothing to worry about!

Just trying to put it into perspective for you, vass. Congrats on being engaged, by the way!
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Thanks all for your advice - I really appreciate it and yes - we are compatible in so many ways that i am blessed.
- July 11th, 2009, 07:47 pm
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I can totally sympathize with you, I have been in a similar situation, never thought it was a problem, but I heard similar comment from an ex. As crazy as this may sound, get a book. There are books available to help you improve your technique and once you show her a few new tricks, she will boost your self esteem right back up.
- July 12th, 2009, 06:56 am
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vass2009 wrote :
so the general vibe Im getting here is it doesnt matter that Im average, as long as its not too big or too small, and I can 'hit that spot' than I have nothing to worry about?
stop worrying about her past sexual experiences.
- July 12th, 2009, 08:15 am
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Well, add to that that you're completely in love with each other and would do anything in the world for each other, and have hopes and dreams and plans for your future together, and are on the same page about religion, wanting kids, and where you're going to live, and can imagine still being in love when you're old and gray.... then maybe you have nothing to worry about!

Just trying to put it into perspective for you, vass. Congrats on being engaged, by the way!
I'm glad someone pointed this out. It sounds hokey, since we all like the pleasure party, but when you're really on target in the relationship, the anxiety about the whole act disappears. It becomes just fine no matter how you do it, or if you get that moment.

From my experience, that is. I've had it both ways.
- July 12th, 2009, 10:29 am
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DeliBebek wrote :
From my experience, that is. I've had it both ways.
Oh really? Not that there's anything wrong with that. lol
- July 12th, 2009, 10:37 am
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Me and my partner have been togethor about a year and recently got engaged. For the mojority of this time we get on very well, have the usual ups and downs most couples have, and as far as I know the sex has been good.
As with most couples we have touched on ex partners, and what we liked and didnt like about them.
She told me that a couple of her ex partners had been a little 'rough' with her, but that 1 in particular had been good in bed. I wasnt sure what she meant by this and recently(a couple of weeks ago) asked her.
Basically she said that they were 'bigger' than me, and while it hurt at first - she liked it after a while. As soon as she said this I have become very insecure. I believe from all reports I am about average size, and have never had any complaints in that department before. I actually even rang an ex partner and she said no - you annoyed me with other stuff sometimes but in that department you were good.... I am still feeling very inadequate now.
She also told me that one of her friends was dating a guy and he was very big and they had trouble having sex. She made a passing comment at the time - ahh - I dont know what shes worried about - I can handle it.... I didnt think much of this at the time but now I wonder exactly what she did handle..and am I enough for her..??
There are also a couple of things in the bedroom that she has done with 1 atleast one of her ex-partners that she did not do with me in bed until very recently. Why would she do this with them but not me? Is she really into me?
We have talked about this and she tells me that Im good in bed and she likes what we do. But I cant help but wonder if I am really satisfying her when she has been with other guys that are 'bigger' than me, and why she did other things with other guys and not me until very recently.
Yes I feel insecure and stupid, and have actually looked into ways to increase my 'size'. She assures me that I am perfect and not to worry, but I cant help but think about these other guys that were 'good in bed' and 'bigger than me', and think she may be saying im perfect cause she knows she has hurt my feelings and wants me to feel better.
I have never felt so insecure in my life before, and wish I had known some of this stuff a little earlier before we got engaged. i do love her but cant seem to get over this and really want to so we can go ahead and marry as planned.
Im feeling very confused and insecure - what should I do?

Why the HELL would she tell you about how great a past lover was or the size of his junk?! Also, her talking about stuff she's done with other guys and not you (until recently) is about as therapeutic to a relationship as a kick to the groin during foreplay.
Why why why?
- July 12th, 2009, 12:57 pm
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