confused,help my boyfriend left me a note,he did not want to be w ith me anymore


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heartnsoul is offline heartnsoul Post #1  July 8,2009, 2:06pm
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I got a note at my door,i was shoked.He said he had doubts about us,wanted a week no phone ca lls or contact.A week later another note,sa id i do not want to be in this relationship.We were happy,talked about everything,even marriage.He seemed happy with me.We had a great relationship.He did though broke up with his ex a month before we got together,he was ang ry with her.She tried to pour his hot coffee a t him at this donut shop were we met.She was angry with him.Do you think he was scared?Another woman?The devil giving him bad thoughts abo ut us?I need prayer for answers to this.what do you th ink happened to us?Very confused,i do however have two k ids13 and 11,he d id like the m.
 
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heartnsoul wrote :
I got a note at my door,i was shoked.He said he had doubts about us,wanted a week no phone ca lls or contact.A week later another note,sa id i do not want to be in this relationship.We were happy,talked about everything,even marriage.He seemed happy with me.We had a great relationship.He did though broke up with his ex a month before we got together,he was ang ry with her.She tried to pour his hot coffee a t him at this donut shop were we met.She was angry with him.Do you think he was scared?Another woman?The devil giving him bad thoughts abo ut us?I need prayer for answers to this.what do you th ink happened to us?Very confused,i do however have two k ids13 and 11,he d id like the m.
I can tell from your post that you are really hurting, and I'm so sorry that you are feeling this way. I honestly can't tell you what is going on in his mind, except that he has obviously made a decision and it's one that he's not even willing to sit down and discuss with you face to face. In all honesty, just based on the way he chose to handle this, I'd say you're better off. If he can't sit down and end things properly and leave you with your dignity, and if he resorts to leaving notes on your door that anybody (including your children) could have found, then I think you may be better off. If this is how he handles the tough stuff, is this the kind of person you really would want to spend your life with or have around your children?

As difficult as it is to move on, I would suggest you do just that. You can't force him to tell you what's going on, you can't make him come back, and while you can sit around and wait for him, I wouldn't recommend that because I don't think he's coming back. Give yourself time to heal and get over the pain, and don't give up. There are good guys out there--sometimes it just takes awhile to find them. I wish you all the best.
 
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Completely agree.

A man so cowardly to leave a note on your door---You're better off without him.

You don't want him setting an example to your kids of what a man should be.

Good luck.
 
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It must be painful going through this, but try your best to be strong and move on without him. You deserve time and respect, which he didn't provide by simply leaving a note indicating he was breaking up with you. You're worth a lot more. Cheer up, sweetie. Think about this guy no further. Invest your time and effort in meeting someone who will deserve you.

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AustinShaguar is offline AustinShaguar Post #5  July 8,2009, 7:09pm
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Anyone who breaks up with a person like that isn't even worth consideration as a future SO. You are lucky he exposed himself before y'all really got deep into a relationship. Count your blessings!
 
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In my world a man like that is called : "A 30 Day Wonder". He gives you 30 days and then you wonder where he disappeared to...................
His pattern is to romance a gal for a month and move on and no one can change his behavior...........................I would go to the doctors office and get myself checked for an Std. or VD. if you were inter-mitt with him. Don't waste your time wondering about your 30 day wonder.

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he's a drama queen. move on.
 
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W0LF is offline W0LF Post #8  July 8,2009, 10:00pm
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Doubtlessly he has his reasons but like others have told you you're better off without him. If he doesn't have the strength to break up with you civilly how was he supposed to maintain a relationship with you? Still you should confront him about how he broke things off. Even if calling him out for being a coward and leaving you break-up notes doesn't improve his dating skills it will give you some closure in the relationship.
 
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You dodged a bullet, if he can't even talk to you face to face
 
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txbubba is offline txbubba Post #10  July 9,2009, 7:04am

is not out of his mind - just out of bullets

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at least he left you a note rather then poofing, as many on eha are known to do
 
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