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theweave is offline theweave Post #1  July 3,2009, 2:55pm
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There is a girl that I used to work with and now communicate on Facebook with. She is single but must have had a nasty breakup because of the stuff I have read on her page etc. She is hurting over it.

Anyhow, this past Canada Day we were both on Facebook and were chatting and she was wanting to go to a concert and all of her friends had backed out on her. We chatted for a while and she was saying how hard it was to meet people and that she was shy etc.

I had asked her for coffee once and she declined so I just left it at that.

Than yesterday I get a match in email and see that this person lives just 15 minutes from me. "Cool!" I thought and clicked on it and logged into EH.... IT WAS HER!!!!!!!!!!!

I didn't even know that she was on EH, and so I sent her my first set of questions than sent her a message on FB saying how funny it was that we got matched and how EH thought we were compatible!

I chatted with her today on FB and she said she is not a paying member but signed up because of the free communication weekend. She was hesitant at first but did answer my questions and than sent hers. I have since sent her my wants/ can't stands and she has done likewise.

I told her at least she will learn a bit about me through doing it this way. At least I know I will still be able to communicate with her after the weekend too, and maybe take her on a date after!

It is a small world!

P.S. I was attracted to her when I worked with her, but she was with someone at the time so I never did nothing!

My question is: How do I proceed with this, besides with caution???
 
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So did I, except this is someone I did nursing school with. More of a sister figure.
It was pretty funny though...
 
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Wiseman2 is online now Wiseman2 Post #3  July 3,2009, 3:05pm
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So did I we had a great laugh about it. So what are you doing on here?
 
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Rob_UK is offline Rob_UK Post #4  July 3,2009, 3:07pm
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Just go with it man - you must have some common traits to have been matched - sometimes you don't know what is in front of you until someone points it out
 
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Emme is offline Emme Post #5  July 3,2009, 4:00pm

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I'd go with it too. Sometimes we don't notice a great thing right in front of us until something makes us open our eyes all the way. Maybe this is what she needs to look at you in a different way.

On the topic of getting matched with people you know, on Chemistry I got matched with my cousin. I do adore him and we have a lot in common but I told him to please not be offended that I closed him as I'm not into the incest angle. It was hilarious.
 
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Emmma is offline Emmma Post #6  July 3,2009, 4:17pm
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This happened to me with a guy, it made us better friends
 
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That's great! But why continue with the eHarmony process? Why not just call each other at this point?
 
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IcecreamMoon is offline IcecreamMoon Post #8  July 3,2009, 4:56pm
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All it really says to me is that eHarmony is doing something right, because their strategy brings together people, who are compatible with each other, and your existing friendship is proof of that.

Relationships should always be about friendship with some added physical chemistry, whichever comes first.

The girl is obviously still in pain, trying to get over her break up. If you really like her, stick around as a friend - no questions, no expections (if you can do this), even though you have my permission to have ulterior motives

Help her get over her pain. And if she is a psychologically healthy individual (and by what your described I think she is), she'll give you a sign when she is ready for more than friendship with you.

Good luck!
 
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
All it really says to me is that eHarmony is doing something right, because their strategy brings together people, who are compatible with each other, and your existing friendship is proof of that.

Relationships should always be about friendship with some added physical chemistry, whichever comes first.

The girl is obviously still in pain, trying to get over her break up. If you really like her, stick around as a friend - no questions, no expections (if you can do this), even though you have my permission to have ulterior motives

Help her get over her pain. And if she is a psychologically healthy individual (and by what your described I think she is), she'll give you a sign when she is ready for more than friendship with you.

Good luck!



I like this plan to be a good friend to her now! She may not be ready for anything more right now, especially with somebody she considers a friend at this point.

The only thing I would add is that if you see she is ready, MOVE ON IN! Don't let her get away to somebody else.
 
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I once got matched with my brother!

To TheWeave's situation... since she seems receptive and you're still interested, just go with the flow. If it continues to go well, ask her out on a low-key date again and see where it goes.
 
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