DIVISION is offline DIVISION Post #1  July 2,2009, 7:34am

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Referencing a prior post, I was wondering just how significant the word "love" is in a relationship.

Does a man really need to use it on a continual basis for affirmation purposes or is the issue blown out of proportion?

If a man loves you, do you really need to hear it in order to be satisfied?

I tend to think women value this more than men.
 
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It takes more than saying "love" to satisfy a woman.

Geez, it takes all kinds...
 
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I don't think it's about saying it as much as the meaning behind it. A guy can say he loves me all he wants, but if he doesn't actually mean it, what's the point in lying about it? Of course, if he does genuinely love me, what's wrong with saying it? Though I do believe that when it's said excessively, i.e., every other phrase out of his mouth, it starts to lose its meaning.
 
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Love should be shown in actions, not words. And only when it is truly meant.
 
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Showing love is way more important than saying it, but if he can't/won't say it you gotta wonder why...... (and no, it doesn't have to be verbalized all the time or excessively).
 
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stevex wrote :
Love should be shown in actions, not words. And only when it is truly meant.
My sentiments exactly. The "I love you's" are thrown around so much that they just become words. There are little actions a man or woman can do that speak volumes.
 
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Is it me or does it seem like the ladies like to hear it more than the gents? Seems to me that guys accept action as an indicator of love. Gals seems to want it said in addition to the actions.

Long, long ago in a far away galaxy...when I was young....

I once told my girlfriend, who constantly hounded me over the L-word or the minimal amount I said it, that until further notice I loved her. I told her when I changed my mind she would be the first I would inform. But until then I loved her. It still didn't get her to quit hounding me...LOL!
 
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My girl loves it when I say it to her. It's about once a day, either through text or call.

I was like, "So if you want me to say it less, I can do that." and she was like, "No, I LOVE hearing it."

Then I was like, "My viewpoint is you can't have too many 'I love yous'", and then she grinned and nodded.
 
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AustinShaguar wrote :
Is it me or does it seem like the ladies like to hear it more than the gents? Seems to me that guys accept action as an indicator of love. Gals seems to want it said in addition to the actions.

Long, long ago in a far away galaxy...when I was young....

I once told my girlfriend, who constantly hounded me over the L-word or the minimal amount I said it, that until further notice I loved her. I told her when I changed my mind she would be the first I would inform. But until then I loved her. It still didn't get her to quit hounding me...LOL!
"...does it seem like the ladies like to hear it more than the gents? Seems to me that guys accept action as an indicator of love. Gals seems to want it said in addition to the actions."

Yes. Women tend to be more verbal. And many of us really do think it's possible you'll change your mind sometime during the course of the day. Not all, so please throw down your weapons, ladies...

"my girlfriend... constantly hounded me over the L-word or the minimal amount I said it"

My theory? If I have to ask a guy to say it, it really doesn't mean much to me. It's like "Do these pants make me look fat?" Of course not. "Do you love me?" Of course I do.

I'd rather hear it when a guy genuinely feels it, and I look for his actions to reflect how he really feels.
 
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[FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=2][COLOR=indigo]My theory? If I have to ask a guy to say it, it really doesn't mean much to me.

I'd rather hear it when a guy genuinely feels it, and I look for his actions to reflect how he really feels.[/QUOTE]

Pretty much sums up my point of view as well!
 
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