Single Mothers....

I've seen many threads discussing single mothers and their apparent lack of success in attracting men.

I think it needs to be said that from a male perspective, someone who is single without kids or baggage, why would you really expect a man to date you when there are plenty of single women without kids?

It's not a hard decision at all.

Men typically prefer non-complicated relationships and you don't offer this if you have kids.

To the contrary, you bring alot of complication and most of your time is going to be dedicated to your children, NOT the relationship.

I don't see why this is so hard to understand.

Most men don't want to raise someone else's kids because it's not fair to them.

This is all really very simple.

A man would really have to like you in order to take on a relationship with a single mother.

Personally, it's not for me because I like a relationship where kids are a possibilty, not a foregone conclusion!

I also believe in the importance of the relationship, first and foremost, and kids only take away from that.

Your best chance is through finding a nice guy who already has kids and is willing to work with you.

.......but expecting a single guy to compromise his life and freedom to take on your "ready made" family is unlrealistic.

Remember, men prefer uncomplicated relationships and you can't offer that.

I am a single mother as well. This comment is just childish.
That men don't want single mothers. This is not true. In the past 18 yrs I raised both my girls alone with no help from their father. Never had problem getting a date actually the other way around. Most guys want a single mother cause they are easier targets. I have had to be careful when dating cause some guys are pigs. They are just looking to get laid and if you have kids well you must have put out somewhere along the way.
When I meet a guy who asks me out the first thing I say is "I have kids, hope thats not a problem", well there is your out. yYou just say sorry I'm not into kids at this time. Easy isn't it. No mother wants a guy around who doesn't want her kids too. So you should be safe from us single moms.
You sound very shallow to me that is a pity. It's not the kids fault his family isn't whole. We all have different family dynamics. Get over it. Just don't date single mothers. JUST SAY SORRY NOT INTERESTED. Women will accept honesty over stupidity any day. There are alot of other fish in the sea to check. We won't be lost without you.

I am a single mother and have raised my son alone. I can't say it's been easy or that I've never encountered a man that would rather not date a woman with a child. But honestly that weeds out the good choices for me. If a man is looking for a "simple" relationship and considers my son "baggage" then he is definitely not good enough for me or my son!

To the single mothers out there - do not for one minute let narrow-minded men make you feel bad about your situation. There are many men who will find the very fact that you are a mother very attractive. Especially if they already have children or would like to have children of their own.

I've seen many threads discussing single mothers and their apparent lack of success in attracting men.

I think it needs to be said that from a male perspective, someone who is single without kids or baggage, why would you really expect a man to date you when there are plenty of single women without kids?

It's not a hard decision at all.

Men typically prefer non-complicated relationships and you don't offer this if you have kids.

To the contrary, you bring alot of complication and most of your time is going to be dedicated to your children, NOT the relationship.

I don't see why this is so hard to understand.

Most men don't want to raise someone else's kids because it's not fair to them.

This is all really very simple.

A man would really have to like you in order to take on a relationship with a single mother.

Personally, it's not for me because I like a relationship where kids are a possibilty, not a foregone conclusion!

I also believe in the importance of the relationship, first and foremost, and kids only take away from that.

Your best chance is through finding a nice guy who already has kids and is willing to work with you.

.......but expecting a single guy to compromise his life and freedom to take on your "ready made" family is unlrealistic.

Remember, men prefer uncomplicated relationships and you can't offer that.