Friends of opposite gender / effects on relationships?


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Hey everyone,

I stumbled on this interesting topic on one of our sister sites, Weddingbee (http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/opposite-sex-friendships
) and it made me wonder about what our Advice Members would have to say on the topic.

Do you have many close friends of the opposite gender? In your past relationships, has your mate also had close friends of the opposite gender?

How did you both feel about that? Did it cause any issues in your relationship?

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This topic has already been in thread:http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...tml#post649320 (Best Friends of the Opposite Sex)

Originally Posted by Wiseman2
People have men and women friends, this may not be so much about jealousy. I would say you have a man friend ,and leave the "best" friend position open for a potential partner. Emotional attachments , and confiding in an opposite sex "best" friend can be a slippery slope with a partner's feelings of betrayal. Particularly, if there is a problem or an issue with a partner, and it is discussed behind the partner's back with a same sex "best" friend. Many an affair begins with a comforting "best" friend listening to "my partner doesn't understand me. So please be mindful and respectful to a partner rather than call them "jealous" when you are posing a real (not imagined) threat to the relationship with the "best" friend thing.


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Thanks Wiseman! I missed that one.
 
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