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BobinFla wrote :
To start with, do what you feel you need, do not listen to everything others tell you.

I can't say how to find the man you are looking for, but be yourself and like you state in this post and you should be able to find the one you are looking for.

Good luck in your search.
Ahhh, I like you're advice here. Couldn't have said it better!
- June 21st, 2009, 06:38 am
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Harvey7 wrote :
I think that you might say that you are a "mans women" say verses a "woman's women" or just one of the girls!

There are some women that are just one of the guys and know how to be a friend verses a catty carrier of tales who can't keep a secret.

The best place to meet your kind of man is on the Golf Course or a unisex bathroom. Welcome aboard.

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LMAO... I've heard of only one place that has true unisex bathrooms... and that's one of the local gay bars. I guess your statement must be true Harvey, I'm sure one could meet a lot of men in a place like that. o O
- June 21st, 2009, 10:12 am
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canadadaygirl wrote :
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I have so many other women telling me not to date or spend any time with men. Learn to live on your own.... well I have done that and am doing that.... and I am not wanting to be alone. I am not needy or wanting a male to take care of me. I have a house and a good job. I really enjoy the company of a male.
I so enjoy a guy's point of view which is usually on target and very direct...
I like their self confidence and I love when they open up and show their vulnerable side.
I enjoy cooking with them/ talking with them/ biking/canoeing with them... I like the smell of their cologne.
Of course I want honesty, Integrity and someone who I can trust completely and they would get the same in return....
I just want the man... my perfect match... the material things do not matter.....I do want a commitment and a long term relationship
So to all the men out there thank you so much for all my life lessons and making me a strong confident woman....
Please advise me now on how to find that strong confident man???
I feel the exact same way just in reverse for a woman. I can live on my own just fine, but ultimately I'd like to share my life with my perfect female match... the other half as it were. I can walk alone confidently through life, but it is nice to have a companion to talk to now and again.

How to find the strong confident man?
Don't get scared off easily by a guy who is forthcoming. Sometimes it might feel like too much info, but it might just be you found yourself an honest guy (so long as of course it's all rational, if he's talking pevertedly to you in the first OC, or how space aliens visit him regularly... well, use your common sense.

If you're a person who understands how to deal with others, trust your instincts... it should "feel" right and if something is bugging you between the shoulder blades and the hair on the back of your neck is standing up and you get a sinking feeling, then something is wrong. I don't know how many times now I've had that bad feeling and ignored it at my own detriment, trying to look past and believe in the goodness of the person because that's what I was hoping for.

Find a guy who supports your freedom and way of life. If a guy starts being restrictive towards who you want to see and hang out with and gives no good cause/reason, then be very careful. There are a lot of guys out there from what I've seen who start off being the great charming prince and end up being the abusive a**. You should feel supported and happy, not restricted.

Find a guy who has his own life and lifestyle that you can agree with. I like to think of a good relationship as one where both support/push each other to become better overall and are close. But walk side by side separately, each an individual with connections of love between them.

btw, nice nick OP. Happy Canada Day to you (in a week and a bit)
- June 21st, 2009, 10:24 am
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LMAO... I've heard of only one place that has true unisex bathrooms... and that's one of the local gay bars. I guess your statement must be true Harvey, I'm sure one could meet a lot of men in a place like that. o O
Duh, where have you been in the last ten years? The most beautiful unisex bathrooms are located in France and several other European city's as well, so impressive were the unisex bathrooms that NYC hired the french designer, to build about 50 of the unisex bathrooms around NYC.

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- June 21st, 2009, 12:17 pm
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Duh, where have you been in the last ten years? The most beautiful unisex bathrooms are located in France and several other European city's as well, so impressive were the unisex bathrooms that NYC hired the french designer, to build about 50 of the unisex bathrooms around NYC.

Harvey7.
Sweeeet.... Right up to the point where the hot chick you were ogling earlier stands beside you at the urinal. lmao

sorry... /end threadjack
- June 21st, 2009, 12:28 pm
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One thing to consider is that things that we like to do or enjoy immensely may not be healthy or wise things to do.

There are times when we should put off gratification for our own good. Of course we all have things that we do that are not good for us... but they are too good to keep us from doing them.

A break from men is advisable for at least a short time after a long term breakup.... unless a rebound is the goal.
- June 21st, 2009, 12:29 pm
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Then who cares what others think?? You know what you want, so do it....just be ready to watch out for the ones who want the "perfect" woman and to stay clear of the ones who want you to be their mother and you'll do fine....lol...but on a more serious note , have some fun and enjoy them. They do have an interesting side to them, I agree.

Good luck!!
- June 21st, 2009, 12:42 pm
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canadadaygirl wrote :
Hi
I have so many other women telling me not to date or spend any time with men. Learn to live on your own.... well I have done that and am doing that.... and I am not wanting to be alone. I am not needy or wanting a male to take care of me. I have a house and a good job. I really enjoy the company of a male.
I so enjoy a guy's point of view which is usually on target and very direct...
I like their self confidence and I love when they open up and show their vulnerable side.
I enjoy cooking with them/ talking with them/ biking/canoeing with them... I like the smell of their cologne.
Of course I want honesty, Integrity and someone who I can trust completely and they would get the same in return....
I just want the man... my perfect match... the material things do not matter.....I do want a commitment and a long term relationship
So to all the men out there thank you so much for all my life lessons and making me a strong confident woman....
Please advise me now on how to find that strong confident man???

Never let anyone stop you from accomplishing your goals or a dream. Btw thanks to you and all the women like you for your great advice, empathy, a shoulder to cry on when necessary, to love and for everything else.

Advice-a female dating author suggested women being more open to meeting someone. She suggested you start saying hello more to strange men. To have weekly and monthly goals of how many men you have said hello to.

My advice would be to appear approachable. If men catch a whiff that a woman is difficult, most run. I hope that helps. Good luck to you in finding the one!
- June 21st, 2009, 01:00 pm
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Sweeeet.... Right up to the point where the hot chick you were ogling earlier stands beside you at the urinal. lmao

sorry... /end threadjack
An empty vessel makes the most noise! or Until you've actually visited a unisex bathroom reserve your opinion. Modern engineering can anticipate the needs of both men and women and also accommodate some level of privacy. The usage was for people who just had to go and there was no other place available at the time and yes there is a potty to sit on so you don't have to stand up to use it. End thread Jack! Got a chip on your shoulder that you can't stand beside a good man?

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- June 21st, 2009, 01:47 pm
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