bigdog107 is offline bigdog107 Post #1  June 17,2009, 5:49pm
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this last year i was mad at the world, her kids, politics,freinds,work, was all getting to me.her kids would not follow my rules, they are 18 &20 they would have boy friends stay the night, along with other rules not followed,I feel i became brain washed with the far right politics,i treated my wife terrible this last year. i love her dearly but she moved out saying i changed which i know i did, im not sure exactly why,but i did, i feel im better now i quite listning to politics,i under stand there not my kids and cant control them,my freinds are b
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You were an unreasonable person that that was stuck in a hateful state of mind. So what's changed? Why should they believe you now, after they had to move out and start life somewhere else? The reward of living with you is not worth going the pain of readjusting to your rules and craziness. Why should the give you another chance?

You could try going into therapy for yourself and then after a few months invite your family to join in for family counseling? Good Luck.

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The first step is to focus on yourself, I think. You can only show her that you've changed by example and even if she sees that you are, in fact, a different person now, she still may not want to go back with you out of fear that you may one day change again. Sometimes the hurt has just been too great.
 
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She doesn't want you back, you blew it. Move on
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this last year i was mad at the world, her kids, politics,freinds,work, was all getting to me.her kids would not follow my rules, they are 18 &20 they would have boy friends stay the night, along with other rules not followed,I feel i became brain washed with the far right politics,i treated my wife terrible this last year. i love her dearly but she moved out saying i changed which i know i did, im not sure exactly why,but i did, i feel im better now i quite listning to politics,i under stand there not my kids and cant control them,my freinds are b
y
my side now, how can i move forward are get her back in my life?
 
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angelofmerci is offline angelofmerci Post #5  June 19,2009, 6:58am
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When I read your post a couple of things stood out. How could politics cause problems in the home unless you were ranting and raving all the time or getting into arguments about it? The other thing was the apparent lack of good parenting skills displayed by your ex gf. No descent parent is going to allow their unmarried children living at home to have their boyfriend or girlfriend sleeping over in the same room much less the same bed.

If you want this woman back first you are going to have to show her that you have infact changed, then convince her the change is permanent. Therapy would be in order first just for yourself then maybe couples therapy if she is willing. I think even with therapy that the problem with the daughters is going to resurface. Good luck
 
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