Does Age matter to you????

I'm 42 and I can't imagine what i'd possibly have in common with a 20 year old. Most people that age are just learning about life, and by 40, you should have it sorta figured out.

I have heard it said (and I concur) that most women do not start to settle into the personality they are going to be for life until their late 20's, and for men it is their early 30's. Of course this wouldn't apply to everyone because there's always exceptions. I know for myself that I didn't feel like I started to get a handle on life until I was 33.

Having said that a man in their 40's could be in a successful relationship with a woman in her late 20's, but if she is say 20-25 then I'm just not sure that has good long-term prospects. He's settled into how he's going to live his life, and she is going to be growing and changing. I knew some situations where an older man married a woman around 22, and it was great for him because it was what he was looking for. But when she started to mature and become more independent in her thinking then there were some pretty major changes. In one instance they got a divorce, and I didn't keep up with the other one due to moving.

As with anything there are always exceptions, but my concern is that in these situations where the man is much older and the woman is particularly young that both are bringing in some hidden agendas. The man may be wanting someone young that he feels he can control, and the girl may be wanting a father figure. At some point those agendas aren't going to be fulfilled and then what do they do?

I hear this quite often. It depends on maturity levels, I suppose. I have friends who are in their 40's and there is alot in common surprisingly. This may sound disturbing but a 20 year old probably has parents somewhere in the 40 year old range and so, they grew up listening to the music their parents listened to and so on. I mean, you can't help who you're attracted to. If you click, you click, if you don't, you don't. That's how I see it, anyways. And I'm 20.

About '20 being the time when they are just figuring out what life is about', you have to remember that women mature alot quicker then men. I may be young, but I generally know what I want and I know how I'm going to get there. I have my career, my car, my own place, and many of my friends still spend their nights going to nightclubs and drinking until they pass out... I've obviously tried that scene and it just wasn't right for me.

Perhaps some people just don't connect with their age group...

Funny how many older men can find things in common with a 20 year old woman who is beautiful.