What do types of kisses mean?


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islandrain80 is offline islandrain80 Post #1  June 15,2009, 9:53am
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That's the question. I'm thinking about the different types of kisses you get, as the 1st kiss while dating. There's the all out attack w/tongue. The firm but no tongue. I had a 2nd date with a nice guy (1st wasn't that great, but he called back and I figured I'd give him another shot...and glad I did).

When he moved to kiss me, it wasn't what I was used to lol. No tongue, just short and kinda firm. When I dropped him off, I got another one.

So I'm just curious, does giving a woman a certain type of kiss mean anything?
 
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Oooh. good question.
 
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Jacquesne is offline Jacquesne Post #3  June 15,2009, 11:46am
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Standard answer: it depends on the guy. There could be plenty of reasons for that particular guy to use a certain type of kiss and it probably depends on his personal experiences more than any deep hidden meaning.

This type of kiss is probably exploratory. In other words he's testing to see how comfortable you are with it. He may have learned through experience or hearsay that many women don't like the "make-out" first kiss and are more interested in a solid but still reserved kiss. I personally prefer this type of first kiss to the make-out kiss as I consider it more personal and less passionate.

What do I mean by that? Basically many guys (myself included) don't like the "sex-maniac" stereotype and want to indicate we're interested in a girl as a person and not as the target of our next sexual conquest. The make-out kiss can be seen as moving too quickly and out of proportion. We don't want a girl to feel like all we want is to get in her pants ASAP.

But that's just one interpretation. It could also be because the guy is shy or unsure of himself. It could be because he's somewhat interested and wants to learn more but doesn't want to lead you on. It could simply be because some former girlfriend said she doesn't like tongue kisses and so he doesn't do them. He could have been worried about the way his breath smelled and so he gave you the closed-mouth kiss to avoid grossing you out. Or it could have been because of the way your breath smelled!

If you're looking for a manual of "all guys mean this when they kiss like this" you'll either have to look for the (incorrect) stories made up by Cosmo to sell more magazines or accept that there isn't one. His reasons could be cultural, personal, based on something he heard in a movie or magazine, based on the situation, or a hundred other things. Sorry that there isn't a good answer. I can only give you the reason I would give a kiss like that but I'm not a measure of every guy out there (thank the Lord...some guys I'm embarrassed to share a gender with).

I hope that helps.

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I don't suppose that you and scarlet13 could be over thinking this, do you?

I think that Jacquesne has explained it. I am not much of a kisser so I am going to do it wrong no matter what I do and it will have had nothing to do with that I had any particular meaning behind it. I guess since you girls are going to be analyzing the meaning behind my kiss maybe I just as well not even give you a kiss.
 
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LOL.

The first kiss could mean anything. We are human and get kind of nervous sometimes about such things.

For me, I'm not going to kiss her unless I really want to see her again...unless I feel there's something there. At first I'll move in a little bit to see if she moves away. If not, I'll give her a brief kiss, pull away and leave my hand lingering for a sec. I figure if she kind moves toward me, or caresses my hand, when I pull away it's a good sign.

I've had first kisses where I thought, well geesh, I guess that didn't go too well, but was proven wrong when the second kiss happened. Heh, I had one date who pulled away the first time I kissed her, and I thought...oops, guess she wasn't so interested then! She told me on the next date that she had something in her back tooth and was self conscious!

As far as the tongue thing goes, I will always let her decide on that. I'm not that fond of sticking my tongue down someones throat, but licking her lips or teeth can be fun! The more passionate kisses mean, for me, that I'm really really interested. Certainly won't be the first kiss.
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I'm not into cheek kisses; I'd rather just receive a hug. I view the kiss on the cheek as something a grandmother would do to me. It's like the kiss of death.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I don't suppose that you and scarlet13 could be over thinking this, do you?

I think that Jacquesne has explained it. I am not much of a kisser so I am going to do it wrong no matter what I do and it will have had nothing to do with that I had any particular meaning behind it. I guess since you girls are going to be analyzing the meaning behind my kiss maybe I just as well not even give you a kiss.
Women don't over think anything...
Thanks for the replies, was mostly curious since it was something new to experience. Though not complaining about it! It's nice to date a guy who doesn't immediately try to get my pants off.
 
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Good job Jacquesne. You could get a job writing columns for eH advice! I think we now consider you the kissing expert.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I am not much of a kisser so I am going to do it wrong no matter what I do and it will have had nothing to do with that I had any particular meaning behind it. I guess since you girls are going to be analyzing the meaning behind my kiss maybe I just as well not even give you a kiss.
Fooey on that! If you can't win for losing, you might as well enjoy a few kisses yourself. Now who's over thinking this?
 
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Types of kisses also has a lot to do with not only the interpretation of the kiss in relationship to the date by the person being kissed (as in the person who didn't initiate this kiss, because hopefully, the person is kissing back), but it also has to do with the kissing style and experience of the kisser. Many kisses may start off one way and end quite another.
 
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