icyfishbowl is offline icyfishbowl Post #1  May 29,2009, 8:55am
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I have been talking to this guy for 3 months, and we were in a relationship recently. He does not look like a person who like flirting with girls, but I just found out that he is still on eharmony and updated his new pix after we decided to have a relationship. I don't wanna be too sensitive, but I don't see it is a good sign for our long term relationship. No one is just looking for friendship on Eharmony, am I right?
How should I deal with this?
How do I ask him about this without hurting our relationship?
should I trust him? bcz without trust, a relationship cannot last long
Anyone can help??!!!
 
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angelofmerci is offline angelofmerci Post #2  May 29,2009, 9:28am
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In your post you said you were in a relationship with this guy. From this statement I take it that you are not presently in a relationship with him. If that is the case then whatever he does should not matter to you. If you are still in a relationship then I would be wondering why is profile does not indicate the relationship status. You need to have a good sit down chat with him to find out what is going on. Good Luck
 
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Sorry for the confusing. We are in a relationship now. what does that mean"profile does not indicate the relationship status"? can he set he is in a relationship on EH?
 
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"Having a relationship" can mean a lot of things. He is at least curious about what is still out there, and it could be just curiosity with no action on his part. That is bad if you have promised each other a future. It is not so bad if you are just dating while you try to figure things out. I don't know the details of your relationship, so I cannot answer your question. If just looking is cheating ...
 
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Here's a question. What is your relationship? Have you actually spelled out that you are exclusive with one another? I ask because you seem afraid to tip the boat. Is it possible that you just assumed it was an exclusive relationship, but never spelled it out?
 
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Dafearon wrote :
Here's a question. What is your relationship? Have you actually spelled out that you are exclusive with one another? I ask because you seem afraid to tip the boat. Is it possible that you just assumed it was an exclusive relationship, but never spelled it out?
What he said.

Another thing to consider is you may be being played.
 
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Thanks all. I think I need talk to him. we have not promised each other a future, but I am sure our relationship is bf and gf. I don't understand, is that normal guy wants to see how popular he is on Eha? The worse case is I am being played....
 
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I turn off new matchings on ehar as soon as I perceived a chance of success with the woman I was dating.. but that is only me. Don't take it as a general behavior pattern.
 
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but when you perceived a chance of success with the woman you are dating, do you just close the new matching or should close the Eha account?
 
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I have no idea how to close the ehar account.. so I just turn off new matches - so they wont send you more - and close the subscription which prevents them from billing you again.
 
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