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Has having a pet ever negatively impacted a romantic relationship?
 
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nope, but I think if you're one of those "my dog is the most important thing in my life" people, that's a bit much. But that being said, if my cat doesn't like a guy, he'd have to be pretty fantastic for me to not dump.
 
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i just closed a EH match because he was severely allergic to cats.

my cat doesn't like anyone, ever, including me most of the time, so if she didn't like someone that wouldn't be a red flag for me, LOL. but if a guy didn't like animals then i wouldn't pursue a relationship with him because i'm involved in a animal welfare group. *shrug
 
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coffeegeek wrote :
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Ha ha -- no!

But you inspired the conversation that then inspired this topic. So I guess in an off-handed way you did.

Your last post on the date roundup thread made me laugh so loudly that I had to explain myself. That got us talking about pets, then about relationships and then someone said the magic words that give birth to many a thread topic started by me - "I wonder if..."
 
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i just closed a EH match because he was severely allergic to cats.

my cat doesn't like anyone, ever, including me most of the time, so if she didn't like someone that wouldn't be a red flag for me, LOL. but if a guy didn't like animals then i wouldn't pursue a relationship with him because i'm involved in a animal welfare group. *shrug
I have had to pass over GREAT sounding guys because I am deathly allergic to cats, and they indicated that they have one (or more). It makes me sad but I'd never want to put someone in a position where they would feel they have to make a choice between me and their beloved pet.

I really wish I was not allergic to cats because I love them so!
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
i just closed a EH match because he was severely allergic to cats.

my cat doesn't like anyone, ever, including me most of the time, so if she didn't like someone that wouldn't be a red flag for me, LOL.. *shrug
lol, I have almost the opposite problem, my cats love everyone, and often want to cuddle with guys more than with me because they are warmer. lol. So if she (my older cat that I trust more in this regard) DIDN`T like someone, it would be a massive red flag.
 
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nope, but I think if you're one of those "my dog is the most important thing in my life" people, that's a bit much. But that being said, if my cat doesn't like a guy, he'd have to be pretty fantastic for me to not dump.
If you mean that I dress my dogs up, baby talk them, or do any of that; no, I don't do that. I think they just help make life a little brighter and cheerier. I think that they way a person interacts with animals and how their pets behave is an excellent barometer to tell you all sorts of other things about them.

If any non-animal people come into this thread looking for answers about "that crazy animal person" that you had/are having problems with, let me help you to try and understand them. To do so, I would invite you to work at a rescue shelter for at least 6 months. You will see some of the most heart wrenching and insanely cruel things you've ever witnessed. I saw all kinds of abused animals, but the one that stuck with me was a dog I found while collecting dogs from a puppy mill that had been shut down. I got the unlucky job of collecting the dead animals for cremation. I found one we all had figured must have been burned alive with gasoline and then shot with a small calibre weapon or bb gun. I say thought ... because when I went to pick it up, he wimpered. Rushing it back to the vet we worked with, there was only one small patch of fur that was unburned on him and I stroked it and talked to him in a calming voice because you could tell that every bump and jolt in the road hurt him. Two days later when I went back to the vet to see how he was doing, he was laying on his side looking to be in rough shape. When I got closer to the cage and said something, he looked up and feebly wagged his tail. I started to pet that same patch on him as before and he licked my hand. The vet techs said that was the most response anyone had gotten out of him since he had been brought in. I have never, as an adult, cried in public before that point, but I did then. He recognized me and despite the horrific things that happened to him, he was trying to be sweet.

These kinds of stories will happen to you if you work a rescue. If the experience doesn't fundamentally change you, I fear you are a broken human being.

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Only when they're staring at us from the foot of the bed.
 
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