OK. So, I see my high school sweet heart after four years and immediately jump back into a relationship with him. We move in after a month and have lived together for over a year.
To begin with, he was just like he was four years ago... adoring, loving, caring, always kissing on me, wrapping his arms around me, complimenting me, etc. Then he lost his job. OK, well, not only are we living together, but we have a HUGE hurdle to jump together. Except, he didnt do anything.
He applied to a few top-of-the-line government jobs (he's military and was cut from a non-military paramedic related job) and refused to ACCEPT any other jobs he was OFFERED... (construction, EMT at an " Urgent Care" type facility, etc). He sat on the couch and spent time with his parents for 5 months... while I paid our bills.
He finally got offered to go to a class to be a recruiter, and then work after he graduated. He passed the class and is STILL waiting to hear his optional locations for the job. He has only paid me 2/3rds what he owed me, but we havne't fought about it. Its been fine. I never said anything about any of this, jus took care of him and was patient.
During this time, my parents (who vacation alot) took us to Mexico for a week, and it was phenomenal. It made our love blossom to new heights. It was amazing. Then, after a few months when we got back, everything started to fade. He wanted to sit on the couch beside me, but not hold my hand, snuggle, etc. And when I asked him to he would say he didnt want to. He would always snuggle with me in bed while we slept, but during the day that was it. He still said the "I love you's" when he left everyday, but he always left after I got home from work and stayed gone until 9 pm or so. (Always his parents house).
When we would go out of the house, it was always great... and after he had been drinking he wante nothing more than to snuggle with me and kiss me. But not sober and not at home. He rarely ever asked me to go anywhere either. The last place was to watch fight night at his friends house, and of COURSE I didnt go. He knew I wouldn't. He left me at home, alone, promised he would come home soon, and when the fight was over he went to the bar... without asking me to go or even telling me he was going. Then he refused to answer my phone calls.
I was crying by the time he got home, because I could finally see how much he had changed and didnt know why. I asked him one simply question... how do you feel about me? He wouldn't answer, just did his typical roll of the eyes and said not to start that. I told him how I was feeling, what I noticed, and what I could do to make him happy. He just ignored me and asked me to come to bed, and I told him we would discuss it the next morning. He left the next morning and when he came back I asked him to please sit down and talk about it and he ignored me. completely. I started crying again, and he still ignored me.
He left again, without a word, and came back late. The next morning he tried to get up, and I shut the door and told him not to ignore me anymore. All I am asking is for him to tell me about us. What did he want from us, what did he feel, what did I mean to him, just tell me SOMEthing.He rolled his eyes and said obviously he didnt feel as strongly about me as I do him, and doesnt understand how ANYone can say they want to spend the rest of their life with someone... its impossible to know that. And that he has told me he loves me and is tired of me trying to change him.
I told him I wasnt trying to change him, I just wanted to know how he felt. He loves me... ok, I love him to, but he KNOWS how much I love him. He is the love of my life, I would do anything for him, and I have. Not many other people would have dealt with what I did. But i wanted to know what he thought about us... its easy. Do we need more time to consider us serious? (Even though I had always thought we were...) or do we need to do more things together? Is he sure about us? Just HOW do you FEEL??? Its EASY!!!
And he ignored me again. Said he didnt want to talk about it and started to get up. I told him if he couldn't talk to me about us... if he couldn't communicate and tell me what was wrong (Cause he kept saying NOTHING NOTHING NOTHING)... then I would have to ask him to move out. I can't be with someone who can't take the time to tell me he loves me, show me, hug me, hold me, kiss me... SOMETHING. Thats all he had to do is hold my face, look me in the eyes and say "Of course I love you, what are you so worried about?" Thats all you have to do! I said, either that or move out... SO, he says, "OK" and gets up whistling to get a shower.
Sounded to me like he was waiting for that moment. He wanted out and I did all the confrontation FOR him so he didnt have to say a word. EVER.
The he left, never came home (ANd I called a million times) and came home this morning expecting me to be gone to work (I took off) and say down and started watching TV. We watched THREE movies together without a word until I said, "Joe, come on..." And he said "Baby, I just dont want to do it anymore..." I said its Over? and he said Yeah... that was it.

What the hell happened? I asked him to tell me what I did wrong, but of COURSE he said "Nothing"...

I asked him if he just didnt feel the same and he did what he always does... agreed and said "Yeah, thats what happened.

Through this entire ordeal, and past ones not as severe... he has always taken what ever question I ask or statement I make and said "Yeah, thats what happened, or Yeah thats right...

He can't say one damn original thought... is it me? Him? Both? What in the hell?