whattodo10 is offline whattodo10 Post #1  May 26,2009, 8:13am
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 11 months now and we've been living with eachother for about 7 months. We have know each other for about 4 years though. Last week I went home and was getting on the computer as I usually do and I saw an IM message conversation still up. Of course I read it and it was my boyfriend and another girl having a conversation. As I kept reading I read some hurtful things that I don't know what to think of or what to do about. He was telling this girl that I was his ex, that i keep trying to stay over his house, telling her that i'm psycho and won't leave him alone, etc. Basically he was telling this girl all lies about our relationship. I confronted him about it all and all he had to say was I dont know what I was thinking. I don't know what to think because I thought we were doing great... I don't know what to do so can someone please give me some advice. Thanks.
 
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DDjr is offline DDjr Post #2  May 26,2009, 10:44am
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He MEANT for you to find this. It's his way of telling you your relationship is done.
 
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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #3  May 26,2009, 11:07am
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Ugh...I'm sorry this is happening to you, but what DDjr said is absolutely true. He meant for you to find this and read it and he left it up on purpose. He is just the kind of a guy who does not have the guts to tell you it's over, so he is hoping that you will dump him instead. He essentially just prompted you to do so.
 
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Wiseman2 is offline Wiseman2 Post #4  May 26,2009, 12:10pm
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"My wife doesn't understand me" Oldest cheater line in the book! All the women "chasing" him are "psychos" as in Fatal Attraction. He'll tell you and everyone else that. Get rid of this loser...FAST!
 
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If this guy has not already cheated on you he will shortly. The best thing for you to do is dump this loser asap. Good Luck
 
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whattodo10 wrote :
I have been dating my boyfriend for 11 months now and we've been living with eachother for about 7 months. We have know each other for about 4 years though. Last week I went home and was getting on the computer as I usually do and I saw an IM message conversation still up. Of course I read it and it was my boyfriend and another girl having a conversation. As I kept reading I read some hurtful things that I don't know what to think of or what to do about. He was telling this girl that I was his ex, that i keep trying to stay over his house, telling her that i'm psycho and won't leave him alone, etc. Basically he was telling this girl all lies about our relationship. I confronted him about it all and all he had to say was I dont know what I was thinking. I don't know what to think because I thought we were doing great... I don't know what to do so can someone please give me some advice. Thanks.
WOW thats gotta hurt im sorry for your pain sweetheart.sounds to me like hes already moved on and is just staying with u for a booty call. U have already confronted him about it and hes just trying to sweep it under the carpet by saying he doesnt know what he was thinking thats just a cop out. U need to get out of this relationship before u get hurt even more cause hes gonna keep doing whatever hes doing till u do.Im sorry u have to go through this and I hope everything works out for u good luck.......Michael
 
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Sorry to say it, but it sounds like you're getting played. If you're not into that kind of game, you know what to do.
 
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AgOrApHoBiChEaRt is offline AgOrApHoBiChEaRt Post #8  May 26,2009, 7:11pm

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run fast.........you can do better,he definitely meant for you to find this. cowards way out. he still gets to pretend to be the good guy. theres no ooops in disrespecting the one you are with to gain sympathy from someone youre trying to get with. shame on him.
 
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lenemngk is offline lenemngk Post #9  May 26,2009, 8:58pm
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I agree with the other posters. It's over though he didn't tell you personally and you're better off without him. I doubt you want to date a guy who doesn't have the b*lls to end things properly but tell lies about you to other people. That's disrespectful and hurtful. Pick up the pieces and move forward Find peace in the company of your family and friends.
 
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peg099 is offline peg099 Post #10  May 26,2009, 9:46pm
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Wow, what a winner. He's lying to you, and to the other woman. Whether he's decided to move on and doesn't have the guts to tell you, or just plain cheating is irrelevant. He's obviously not trustworthy, and what kind of relationship can you have with someone you can't trust?

It's a painful spot to be in, but ultimately it's better to know sooner rather than later. Best of luck!
 
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