syeka is offline syeka Post #1  May 20,2009, 11:41am
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This is a relatively petty complaint, but it’s important to me. My boyfriend and I (together for almost a year) used to live in the same area, but are now about an hour apart while I finish up my undergrad. We’re together every weekend, from about Thursday to Sunday.

The problem is that during the week, I need some sort of contact from him. Our primary method of communication from Monday-Thursday is usually through Facebook, the social networking site (since he has no cell phone). I know he reads my messages, but he’s very bad about writing back. I’m not asking for Shakespeare, just a reply, a couple words, to reassure me that he’s thinking about me. I’ve talked about this with him before, how something so simple can make me so happy, and he always apologizes and says he’ll be better about it. Inevitably, by the next week, he’s back to his old habits. I know this is a very common type of complaint for women, but sheesh, it’s annoying!
 
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Why facebook and not regular e-mail? Would that make it easier for him? What about house phone? He does not have any phone at all?

Most importantly - why do you feel so insecure when you are barely an hour apart and don't see him in person for just three days of the week. I mean really? Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and you need his assurance that he is thinking about you? That almost does not sound healthy on your part........
 
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I think you are expecting too much. If you both are together from Thursday to Sunday, how about giving the guy a break and let him have some time to himself?

I think you need to evaluate why you feel this need to have him communicate yet more that spending over 50% of the week with you. I would think back on past relationships and see if you are creating a pattern that you are trying to play out again.
 
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syeka is offline syeka Post #4  May 20,2009, 12:19pm
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I need to hear that, thanks! Every now and then I’m reminded that I haven’t escaped my generation’s desire for instant gratification and communication. I need to chill, I get it. Haha.
 
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Are you serious? You have that low self-esteem that you need a txt message daily to remind you that someone likes you? Aside from that here's the scoop. You can't and won't change him and if he's not good enough as he is then look around for someone else and save both of you some headaches.
 
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