your dressed to impress your man and another women in the room looks so hot!!


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kat5560 is offline kat5560 Post #1  May 15,2009, 6:56am
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would like to hear the emotions of men and women on a topic like this.

you dressed to empress your man to go the a party or the beach. and a women shows up that your man thinks is soooo hot looking.

women: would it bother you or not? if so, why? if not, why not?

men: when this other women walks in the room does it make you see the women your with look less good to you? what are you ""thinking"" when your looking at the other women and then looking back at your girl? do you have to resist spending the night looking at the hot girl that is there too, and if so how is it making you feel about the girl your with?

this is not an "acual" thing that happened,,,, im just curious about how men and women think when it comes to this kind of thing.
 
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Well, just because you are in a relationship does not mean that you are dead. So yes, you are going to notice a hot man/woman who walks in the room or wherever. Does that bother me? No. I will notice and he will notice and that is actually normal. The reality of life is there is always something better out there. The catch is to like what you have. If I'm in a relationship with a guy, then our relationship is good enough where I'm not going to worry or get insecure about a more attractive woman and he about a more attractive man. At the end of the day there are many reasons why we are together and looks is just a small part of that.
 
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A guy will always notice attractive women, always. Maybe he'll sneak a quick glace now and again, or maybe he'll be a little rude and look a bit too long. But if he's happy with you and loves you, you'll be the center of his attention no matter what other women are in the room.
What are we thinking when we see a hot woman? Sometimes we are looking at her body parts with a momentary lustful thought (like a split second). Or maybe we're just admiring her good looks. But again, this is normal human behavior...to be visually attracted. It does not mean we want to leave you and sit at her table. We might look at others but we stay with you.
 
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I understand that women tend to make their men the center of the universe when it comes to dating. I don't know how men are in relationships, other than the fact that we are committed to the woman we're with and want to be with her. If I am out with my SO and a beautiful woman appears I will notice, yes. I won't stare and ogle to a degree that is disrespectful to my SO. Sometimes my SO will ask my opinion of that woman, and I will give my opinion regardless of how she reacts. To me, these questions are sometimes suggestive of insecurity. Insecurity is natural, and men and women exhibit it in different ways.
 
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I can't answer for all men of course. But, I have this great system! I date women that I not only really like as a person but that I'm also physically attracted to. It's one of my requirements, of course. That way, even IF I see another attractive woman in the room, I have no regrets. I can admire another woman's beauty but in no way do I regret who I'm with. And I'd never want to "upgrade". I'm of the notion that if I feel I need to "upgrade" to someone else, I shouldn't be with her in the first place.
 
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this sort of situation is the perfect opportunity to show how cool a girl you are by saying the other girl is a looker in an appreciative way. you're established enough in yourself to have the bandwidth to pay attention to others without worrying about yourself.
 
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When this other women walks in the room does it make you see the women your with look less good to you?
 
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Women do it and Men do it their is just wrong way and right way. More to the point Confidence Confidence Confidence!!! Men find that just as attractive
 
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very mature man.
 
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I sometimes will point out a guy that I think my girl might think is hot. Especially at the beach or pool setting, where we're all exposed, I'll point out guys and ask her about them, if she likes that, or this, or him, or how he's doing whatever it is he's doing.

Why not? She'll do the same thing if we're at Hooter's.

I want a woman who's confident, secure, and highly un-neurotic. If stuff like ~other women~ bothers you, then whoa, hey, we are ~not~ compatible, because I am not going to move to an island where you and I are the only two people left on Earth.

Nor will I gouge out my eyes for you.

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