Bushido45 is offline Bushido45 Post #1  May 14,2009, 11:50pm
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If you have told a former love many months ago that you wish to move on and cease contact because of unresolvable relationship problems (her family's prejudice/dislike of me and her dishonesty and the mistrust that has created) and they keep contacting you each month via email or messenger chat with short messages with words such as "I still miss you every single day" "could you please just be my friend at least." (I assume that she is in a relationship or has been in one (or more) relationships since we separated in November of last year).
Could it be that she just wants to be friends as her "I will love you forever" feeling has gone or could there be other ulterior (hidden) motives?
 
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lizard47 is offline lizard47 Post #2  May 15,2009, 12:43pm
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There is no one answer for this quandry. I have a couple of ex bf that I was able to become friends with but it was not always easy. I have another ex bf that there just is too much desire there for more and that is not something that is good for either of us.
So you have to figure out if you could just be friends or if that is just not possibly.
Also, in my opinion someone who is saying they still you miss you everyday wants to be more than just friends but since I don't know her I could be wrong.
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I’m sorry, but I do not think that someone who would communicate in this manner possesses the mental health I would consider a prerequisite to allow them in my life.
 
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speaking from personal experience. My ex just broke up with me because he got another girl pregnant. He wanted to have kid ASAP, and i can't have kid ASAP for him. I asked him to wait, and he couldn't.

Anyhow, until this day-about 1.5 months, i still can't get over him and still miss him very much. I don't text to him, but i send him email tell him how i feel.

with your incident, i think the girl still has the thing for you, that's why she still miss you so much. It's up to you to want to be friend with her or not.

Personally, i don't mind being friends with my ex, but non of them want to be friend with me after i broke up with them or they broke up with me.
 
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Every day for months...Don't do it!
She's desperate to get back together with you and thinks if you are "just friends" you'll realize how wonderful she really is and want her back again.
It may sound harsh to say I don't advise it when I don't know EVERY detail of the situation, but speaking from experience of being desperately in love with someone (but I certainly didn't continue texting/emailing after we broke it off) who didn't reciprocate the gesture, it's easier to get over someone who's not within arm's reach...seriously, consider changing your cell number or blocking hers. Every day is just really creepy!
 
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I think that she is head over heels in love with you. Your seems totally paranoid to her response and her family really has nothing to do with this, it's between you and her! Act like a man instead of a little weasle.

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Block her number on your phones, delete her number from yours and block her email from yours. That should help.
 
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She's had a bad time and is on the rebound. You're her back up so she won't feel too bad about herself. She's needy and probably can't not be in a relationship. You're not good enough to be there full time but are when there's no one else.

Don't be anyone's back up.
 
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If you want to move on because of unresolvable issues...then it doesn't matter what meaning is behind her words. You want to move on so that's what you should do. I've never found it to be easy to stay friends with people I've dated so I choose not to stay friends....it's just too difficult and their are emotions behind it. So I'd rather end it completely than stay friends. I think you want to just move on from this girl so just stick with that and find someone who has no issues in your relationship. Good luck
 
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Thanks for the majority of thoughtful replies!
 
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