Let's Talk: Breaking Down Barriers and Developing Better Communication


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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #21  October 5,2009, 3:39pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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I think communication is necessary.... but certainly not sufficient to make a good relationship. Oftentimes I've read people on this forum advising others to 'just communicate' with someone they're dating, as if this will solve all problems. The fact is, there are many people who are selfish, untruthful, or just plain want their own way regardless of what you have to say. So many people get defensive as soon as any small type of conflict arises... that it becomes very difficult to work through the issue with communication.

I've even seen this type of thing enacted here on this forum. People who talk a good talk about being committed to communication and openness....but as soon as someone says something that doesn't agree with what they have to say they turn defensive and then proceed to attack the other person.
 
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jayjay wrote :

I've even seen this type of thing enacted here on this forum. People who talk a good talk about being committed to communication and openness....but as soon as someone says something that doesn't agree with what they have to say they turn defensive and then proceed to attack the other person.
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Wow, most relationships that fail blame either money or irreconcilable differences. Well, then they say that if the other person would just have COMMUNICATED to them; suppose that maybe both people would just communicate to each other the relationship would work. We tend to forget that we are created with two ears & only one mouth. Hello, I like to listen to my partner talk about their fears & their goals & where they want me or them to be. We are so imperfect that it is a hard thing to do. If we will do what we learned in 1st grade we would be better people with better relationships. Say please & thankyou, ask questions 1st & then ask for permission. Let the girls go 1st & always say yes Sir & yes Ma'am. Always be polite & now that we know how to be HUMBLE we should be humble. Lets be servants to each other & we will be amazed at how much our lives change. (For the better) 
 
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AnthonyTh is offline AnthonyTh Post #24  November 18,2009, 8:33pm

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good post....! kudos... i think this is the most fundamental of all relationship issues... It's all about Mutual Aid not competition if you want your relationship to survive
 
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