When the Honeymoon Phase is Over

What happens when that first, most passionate phase of a relationship begins to fade?

HELP! Last September, I met a very nice gentleman on E=Harmony. We would talk on the phone for hours. We met for the first date and it was GREAT. The next few days at work I received the prettiest long stem red roses, needless to say he captured my heart. They were very expensiveWe both decided to close out our profiles. His comment was "I found what I was looking. for.


The next several months we would see each other on the week-ends, we lived three hours away from each other. Every evening would talk on the phone. Thenfor my birthday in NOVEMER he bought me a VERY expensivecedar chest. I was thinking wow this is really expensive for only dating 3 months.(Thanksgiving he was laid off from his road construction job, for the winter.)


He spent Thanksgiving and Christmas with me and my family.His comments where "these were the best holidays I have ever had.)" He then decided to go long haul truckdriving, even though he would be gone for two weeks at a time, we would talk every night on the phone. By this time we had been dating five months, had not been in any fights, we where at the point we were starting to fall in LOVE. In late March he decided to stop truck driving andgo home.


By now things were starting to seem a little strange. He had alot on his plate, 1) Had gone thru a divorce 3 years ago, which he came out of with nothing, pocessions, money etc. 2) February 2008 had found out he had kidney cancer, and almost died. He had gone back to work in May 2008, but he said he needed companionship. He had not dated at all over the last 20 years.


We met on E-Harmony. The last week-end I went to see him I felt he did not want me there, just by his actions. He was never rude to me butHe would hardly talk to me, did want me around him to help in the kitchen. Things were just different. When I left, he held my face and said "I Love You" and I drove home.


The next couple days confersations werenot the same as others. He was very short on the phone with me I thought something was going on. When I was at work coming back to work from my break, I just happen to have my phone with me, and he called, I took the call, he said I have some bad news, I said what's that. He said I can't talk to you any more, it has nothing to do with you, you have been very understanding, loving, caring, supportive person, I will make sure you get all your things back, at this point I could not listen to what he was saying, I hung up on him. I then called back, and got his voice mail, I told him "I thought you were more of a man than to break up with me onthe phone. The next morning I woke up to find everything I had given him was ina bag on the front porch. This really hurt, I bought those gifts for himwith a lot of thought and Love. I have not returned any items he gave me.


PLEASE I NEED YOUR HELP. I CAN NOT SEEM TO GET THIS GUY OUT OF MY MIND, IT IS DRIVING ME NUTS. I TRY TO CALL HIS PHONE, IT'S DICONNECTED. I DROVE TO SEE FAMILY IN THE TOWN WHERE HE LIVES, AND DROVE BY HIS HOUSE. I STOPPED BY AND WAS GOING TO TALK TO HIM, TELLING HIM I DESERVE AN EXPLINATION OF WHAT HAPPENED.


My family says I am better off," he dumped you, move on". I want to dateagain, but just very scared of getting hurt again.


signed


PLEASE HELP!