fisrt step it tallk get a good communication, if the dishonesty still happent just go awway because that never could be your wife or husbad because thel always lied
I have been involved in a relationship where my girlfriend lied about major topics, which I can't figure out how she could think I would not figure it out. Before we started dating we were friends and when we decided to date I asked her if she was divorced and she said " YES. I am waiting on my papers, which should be in the mail anyday" as she pointed towards her mailbox as we were talking in her driveway. Short story, she was still maried. I am happy I can still trust.
How do I deal with it???? I walk !! I was married for 25 years, she cheated on me,...now I'm divorced and I don't look back...I am totally faithful and expect nothing less.....I have been divorced now 8years and I gotta tell ya,..it don't hurt me one bit to say that I have never spoken to her since, nor will I ever speak to her again....,I have forgiven her for my own peace of mind, but it all stops right there.
I have just left my partner of 3 years for the FINAL time becuase of his chronic lying and deciet. Even when confronted with the cold hard facts about his lying he could still look me in the eye and lie. I've realized that by forgiving and trying to move past his lies and the distrust it was not doing him, me or the relationship any justice. I suspect that he has been like this all his life and his previous 3 marriages ended because of his deciet and lies. The only consulation for me is that he will end up a lonely old man because of it.
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